I have had some wonderful advice on here from you all and I am truly thankful for that.

He's had a few smoke free days which were wonderful and he said he felt on top of the world. Then his mates asked him out so we have agreed that he's not going to quit, but will make it a habit he only does with his mates. That way there is less stress on us.

He can go out as often as he wants.........if that means I only see him once a week (when he's not stoned) then so be it. Cos when he is stoned he pushes me away. End of.
I guess the weed will effect everybody differently but either he's a great actor or it does kill his libido.........as when he hasn't smoked he's so HOT!

If I were to email this link to him for him to read.........what advice would you give him? Of the serious sort, not "try some coke" or whatever!

Thanks for all your positive views, and even those not so positive, I really appreciate the honesty. Obviously I care about him else I wouldn't have gone to all this effort to get educated and try to understand his point!

I know loads of you have said it seems like he doesn't care...........but I want to work at this relationship, as he is all I've waited for.......and he says the same of me. So, if that means we spend a few nights a week apart, while he is getting in a mess (and would only be hurting me if he's here) and I can enjoy the other times we are together, then it's my problem to work at dealing with that and not allowing it to be a problem.

However, if I see less and less effort coming from him then maybe you are right, and I should quit the relationship. I can't hold it together single handedly. I do feel it is worth trying to work at for a while longer, else I will look back at something I have thrown away without a second glance, and have so many regrets about a wonderful guy who just needs to get his head together.................
boogabubbalou Reviewed by boogabubbalou on . advice please. Can he quit? Hey! My BF smokes every day and is fed up with it ruining his life. It's ruining us. He has no libido (or is that my affect on him). He said he wants to quit. Is this possible to do? After 17 years? Tell me it is, please Bubs xx Rating: 5