advice please. Can he quit?

[graph]

You also have to understand, you're talking to a bunch of people who smoke weed. It's hard to convince us that weed's the problem when all of us here know it's not. At one time I think we all used to be like you, we believed the government at face value and accepted the fact that because it's illegal, it must be immoral, too. Then we all grew up a little bit and realized our own experiences should shape the path of our lives, not what someone else tells us to think. If you've never smoked weed, I'd suggest you give it a try, to at least see what all the fuss is about. When you realize it's no big deal, I think you'll realize that it's your boyfriend, not the weed, that has turned him the way he is.

[boogabubbalou]

You also have to understand, you're talking to a bunch of people who smoke weed. It's hard to convince us that weed's the problem when all of us here know it's not. At one time I think we all used to be like you, we believed the government at face value and accepted the fact that because it's illegal, it must be immoral, too. Then we all grew up a little bit and realized our own experiences should shape the path of our lives, not what someone else tells us to think. If you've never smoked weed, I'd suggest you give it a try, to at least see what all the fuss is about. When you realize it's no big deal, I think you'll realize that it's your boyfriend, not the weed, that has turned him the way he is.

This is exactly the reason I have come in here, because I want the truth and if my efforts are flogging a dead horse better to know now that now.

I did try it but many years ago. I didn't think it did anything to me really. After quitting cigarettes I do understand a bit about addiction and he says he has a need.
Maybe you are right, maybe something in me has changed him but he still says he wants me for life.

We have known each other 5 months. Not long but an amazing time. Maybe it's worth hanging on a few more weeks before writing it off

[graph]

Cigarettes are actually more addictive than cannabis. You have some research to do. Cigarettes create a physical dependence, your body feels that it needs the nicotine, and there are consequences when it doesn't get the dose it needs. I could go on, but you know what these are already. However, THC activates the cannabinoid receptors in the brain, no such physical dependence happens. There is a psychological dependence, but this just means that you like it. There's a psychological dependence to sex, too.

Cigarettes and cannabis are two totally different things. Cigarettes are terrible and contain horrible chemicals. Cannabis just makes you feel funny for an hour.

[Justin Incredible]

More blow jobs.

[boogabubbalou]

More blow jobs.

Been there, he said it was the best ever...................apparently im the answer to his dreams. But you say skunk won't change that?

[Justin Incredible]

I'm saying nothing I just wanted more blow jobs.

[boogabubbalou]

Thank you all. I do appreciate your honesty.

I cant write him off.............

But it's been an education tonight, thanks xx

[JerryGarcia]

pot isn't addictive, yada yada yada. And it doesn't ruin lives.

[cuziwashigh420]

I dont care it something is addicting or not, in your case not, you can quit anything if you want to bad enough. He can quit easy. Just stop smoking.

[FunkyMonkey]

Graph has said a lot of intelligent insightful things here.
I want to add though that your bf is not a lost cause due to his outlook and attitude.
There are ways that both of you can work together to find the balance in your relationship if you both feel it is worthwhile to do so.
I would suggest that start by finding some activities that you both enjoy doing together. Sometimes when we get stuck in a rut a simple thing like trying some new recreation or entertainment will do wonders for giving us a mood pick up that will set us in a different mind set long enough to break out of negative and harmful thought patterns.
If you can enjoy life together , have some fun, some romance, some laughs and shed some stresses it has great potential to rebuild a bond that got neglected.
Relationships get stagnant and die if no effort is put into continuing to learn and enjoy time together.
This is the "spark" people speak of.
So, find a new way to spark it up rather than sparkin up a doobie.
Sit and look into each others eyes for a few minutes, holdding hands palm tp palm without saying a word.Look not "at" each other, but "into" each other. Feel the love welling up inside you. Then talk about things you used to enjoy doing. Talk about why you love each other. Motivation to get up and get out there living life can be found in this little excersize.
This is only the first step but it can do wonders.

peace.