Quote Originally Posted by graph
You also have to understand, you're talking to a bunch of people who smoke weed. It's hard to convince us that weed's the problem when all of us here know it's not. At one time I think we all used to be like you, we believed the government at face value and accepted the fact that because it's illegal, it must be immoral, too. Then we all grew up a little bit and realized our own experiences should shape the path of our lives, not what someone else tells us to think. If you've never smoked weed, I'd suggest you give it a try, to at least see what all the fuss is about. When you realize it's no big deal, I think you'll realize that it's your boyfriend, not the weed, that has turned him the way he is.

This is exactly the reason I have come in here, because I want the truth and if my efforts are flogging a dead horse better to know now that now.

I did try it but many years ago. I didn't think it did anything to me really. After quitting cigarettes I do understand a bit about addiction and he says he has a need.
Maybe you are right, maybe something in me has changed him but he still says he wants me for life.

We have known each other 5 months. Not long but an amazing time. Maybe it's worth hanging on a few more weeks before writing it off