advice please. Can he quit?

[boogabubbalou]

Hey! My BF smokes every day and is fed up with it ruining his life. It's ruining us. He has no libido (or is that my affect on him). He said he wants to quit.

Is this possible to do? After 17 years? Tell me it is, please

Bubs xx

boogabubbalou Reviewed by boogabubbalou on 08-25-2006. advice please. Can he quit? Hey! My BF smokes every day and is fed up with it ruining his life. It's ruining us. He has no libido (or is that my affect on him). He said he wants to quit. Is this possible to do? After 17 years? Tell me it is, please Bubs xx Rating: 5

[thebeancounter41]

never heard anyone complain that herb LOWERS sexual libido.Most say it makes 'em horny.Perhaps you should try smoking some and see for yourself.Cuase the only negative effect I ever saw come from weed is you might forget where you laid your car keys more frequnetly.It has a tendency to cause short term memory loss to some degree.Short term as in info you only need for a few moments,NOT long term memories like your BF's name or your favorite color.So If you dont mind hunting for your keys,or phone or whatever,once in awhile, I don't think that is much of a BAD effect to worry about.,

[graph]

Nope. You can never quit. Marijuana is more addictive than cocaine and heroin put together, or as I like to call it, coceroin.

Of course he can quit. Cannabis doesn't build a physical dependence, so he's not going to get sick from quitting. He may be a little irritable and have some sleepless nights, but he should be fine. In other words, he will quit on his own if he feels it is worth it.

Personally, I don't think it's the weed that's ruining your relationship, it's your boyfriend's attitude toward life that's being projected through his smoking habit. Cannabis only changes people into lazy, worthless slobs if they were already that way to begin with. Keep in mind, when a relationship starts to go bad, the couple usually blames anything they can before it all comes crumbling down.

[boogabubbalou]

Guess it must be me then. He says he has the desire but not the energy to do anything about it. Even though I have done my bit in the past to make sure I participate but he doesn't need the energy, he seems disinterested.

He has told me some wonderful things but when he is stoned he just can't seem to be bothered to even talk to me?

[halo]

No. He's hoplessley addicted. The only way he can quit is if you wean him off it with heroin.

[Kryzco]

graph's got it right

the downfall of your relationship is his negative attitude towards life, it's not the weeds fault he's feeling this way, it may amplify it, but its not the direct cause

all honesty maybe he should quit, because it seems now he's using weed as a crutch to deal with his problems

[boogabubbalou]

If it helps, he smokes skunk, with cigarettes. He is off work sick which I'm sure hasn't helped. Cos he can be permanatly stoned.

I need your info please...........

[graph]

Guess it must be me then. He says he has the desire but not the energy to do anything about it. Even though I have done my bit in the past to make sure I participate but he doesn't need the energy, he seems disinterested.

He has told me some wonderful things but when he is stoned he just can't seem to be bothered to even talk to me?

Maybe it's you.

I'm sticking with my first "he was probably a worthless slob before" argument. Desire but no energy doesn't even make sense to me. If you have the desire, you work for it. No offense, your boyfriend gives people who smoke cannabis everywhere a bad name. I believe he's just blaming his problems on something that can't fight back.

Keep in mind sometimes when people get high they feel silence is deafening. There's less of a need to talk when you can sit and enjoy life for what it is, you know?

And Kryzco, amplify was the word I was looking for.

[boogabubbalou]

He explained to me that when he is away from me and smoking with his mates, he has a crappy time but he still has the want there to do it. Though it puts him out for the next day and he hates that hungover feeling.

Before he smoked as much around me (only 6 weeks ago) he was perfect.....a real great bloke, so I'm hoping that he really is a great bloke and being stoned and fed up is making him less bothered

[Kryzco]

well if he quits weed then your gonna see him smoking a hell of a lot more cigs

you need to talk to your man plain and simple

weed doesn't ruin libido, at least for me, it enhances it, but excessive cigarette smokin can (don't quote me on that, but I do remember reading it somewhere)

he can quit but its gonna be because he truly wants to, if not your looking at a lost cause