advice please. Can he quit?

[jimmy_page_is_king]

Lot of thoughtful responses on here with a lot of time and effort involved which impresses me.

I feel kinda infamous, a 4 page fred on the interweb and i am the main ingredient......i am the boyfriend or should i say ex boyfriend......dont worry though i am not blaming anyone here.

Been smoking pot on a regular basis for 17 years now which basically means i have been stoned for half my life which i spose isnt all that good thinking back in retrospect, but i wouldnt call myself a hardcore smoker but i do like a spliff with my mates. I did really calm down on smoking the pot when i met Louise, i still indulged but just once a week without her knowing on a night i knew i wouldnt be seeing her, infact the traditional friday night session with the boys i binned so i could spend it with Louise which i think speaks volumes......the trouble started a few weeks after i broke my collar bone, Lou said i was off sick from work but the reality was i was off work for 9 weeks, not an excuse but i imagine what then unfolded was similar to a drinker or borderline alcoholic- more free time so more time to do the things you enjoy which is when the amount of pot i was smoking grew considerably especially as i couldnt do other things like play golf or go swimming and other such things and when the novelty of not having to go to work wore off then i did start to feel depressed.

Respect to Lou though she did let me smoke it around her but the way in which i did it fucked up how she would think of pot smokers forever!! How? well by me sitting up on the computer the 3 times she let smoke until stupid hours of the morning then going to bed when i was so wasted not because of the pot but because of the tiredness, just had to crash and sleep then because of the shit sleep i was shitty the next day!! Inbetween all this i have gone from doing a night shift at work to a day shift off work so my sleep pattern was invariably all round the wrong way anyway.

We were fine before i done my arm in and thats the truth and now we are no more but i did love her and fancy the pants off her whatever she may say.

Just thought it best to put some input of mine own in.

Ciao

[farmboy762]

I'm taking a gess here but i would say you and your bf have had a strong sexual rlationshipprior to this happening. if that is the case, he may be burnt out on sex.(3 or 4 times aday will drain a man of that which makes him a man; testosterone.) Speaking from personal eperience, pot is not the proplem. I lost a fiance becouase iwas a "worhtless pothead". truth is it wasnt the pot, I just got tired of having sex all the time.

try going on day trips that activate the mind of a stoner, ie mountauns, lake, ocean/beach , going to see christmas light displays etc.

[farmboy762]

dude, you need to smoke more pot

[partyguy420]

.....so he's not going to get sick from quitting. He may be a little irritable and have some sleepless nights, but he should be fine. In other words, he will quit on his own if he feels it is worth it.....

other then the fact that they get sick... he may seam like a meth addict for a while... he wont be all that hungary, sleepless nights, and a little bit irritable...