Advice Please....

[yoda]

im sorry, but grabbing his throat? inexcusable. if my mom's bf did that shit to me, all hell would break loose.

[Love Street]

your husband has some appologizing to do

if i had a step dad and he grabbed me by the throat he would be in intensive care

getting strangled because you were out past curfew and slammed a door? wtf?

[litoz22]

im 15 so ye i understand... im usually late.. but maybe by 30 minz.. if i wanna stay longer i jus call my mom n ask.. if she says no im still late but not logner than 30 minz.. she jus gets mad.. but 1:30.. i dun think u should punish him for a month .. maybe lik 2 weeks the most.. but after what ur husband(his step dad) did to him.. frigg u should let him off the hook.. my parents are divorced.. and i do have a step dad.. he does have rules for me and i do respect them but he has n oright to lay a finger on me.. i swear if he woulda touched me.. i woulda knocked him down n kicked his ass.. i dun think hitting ur kids is right but to a certain extent.. we all need to get hit sumtimes i think to get sum sense knocked into us.. i dunno.. i dun think ur husband(step dad) shoudla touched him.. he can yell at him ro w.e.. for disrespectin hiom by shutting the door but not choking him..

[WhiskeyGirl]

He should not have put his hands around his neck ,
but he did appologize to him, this has been a long time coming, my son disrespects me and is smart to me, my husband saved my son's $$ for him , so he wouldnt blow it and he helped him buy a car insurance , all set up , even helped and showed him how to fix things on his car. My son talked t me last nite after my husband left and was talking about his check, every week he gets paid, he gives it to my husband and my husband always asks him what he wants to do with it . Usually my son says half in bank and he keeps half for what ever, well now he isnt talking to my husband so he said to me last night, 3 days after he got his ck, i forgot about my check, i wanna get some kinda distortion for my guitar!!???
When in about 10 days school starts and he has nothing yet for it, he wants a new computer, which he should have for his tech class , he will be a senior. So i have my hands full , i know i need to talk to both of them..... like i said my husband has been managing his $$$ , which my son wants it that way ( he knows if he had his whole ck. way to much would go to his friends and or drugs ( weed) so i guess im in a pickle. damn!! I will keep u guys posted and let me know if ya have any other ideas, i know , we have talked about him moving out, so thats an option but he needs to finish school 1 st. Which he dosent put much effort in, cause he went to summer school the last 3 yrs.

[graph]

Well first thing's first, your kid needs to get his priorities straight. At 17 he should be able to handle his own money, keep in mind he'll be old enough to get a bank account next year. Also, he really needs to get his schooling in order. Threaten to take stuff away, ground him, keep him from driving, whatever, just DON'T touch him him. Your husband's not his father and never will be, and ever that at 17 his father would be asking for trouble. You don't want your kid feeling uncomforatble in his own house, do you?

I had a father who would get violent in his punishments. Now I don't talk to him. Read a chapter in my textbook, don't make the same mistakes.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well first thing's first, your kid needs to get his priorities straight. At 17 he should be able to handle his own money, keep in mind he'll be old enough to get a bank account next year. Also, he really needs to get his schooling in order. Threaten to take stuff away, ground him, keep him from driving, whatever, just DON'T touch him him. Your husband's not his father and never will be, and ever that at 17 his father would be asking for trouble. You don't want your kid feeling uncomforatble in his own house, do you?

I had a father who would get violent in his punishments. Now I don't talk to him. Read a chapter in my textbook, don't make the same mistakes.

My son will be 18 on sept. 18 th of this yr. One of the first things he bought with his paycheck money was his electric guitar, so thats an option if he cant obey the rules, i do not believe in hitting either , my step father grabbed me cause i was going the wrong way walking for the school bus and I hated him for the longest time.... like I said this is the first time he layed a finger on him , we've been together since he has been 9, his real father is illerate and on SSI, my hubby works , but still i dont condone what he did, i will talk to him, I am sure he will get defensive tho. But he loves the heck out of all my 3 boys, 23, 17 and 13.

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My son will be 18 on sept. 18 th of this yr. One of the first things he bought with his paycheck money was his electric guitar, so thats an option if he cant obey the rules, i do not believe in hitting either , my step father grabbed me cause i was going the wrong way walking for the school bus and I hated him for the longest time.... like I said this is the first time he layed a finger on him , we've been together since he has been 9, his real father is illerate and on SSI, my hubby works , but still i dont condone what he did, i will talk to him, I am sure he will get defensive tho. But he loves the heck out of all my 3 boys, 23, 17 and 13.

Sorry if I seemed to harsh with your husband. Some of this hits close to home, you know? I'm not trying to undermine your judgement, but I really think your son could use a GOOD father-figure in his life. I think your husband has probably been a good person to them, but still.

Sorry if I came off too condescending, but I'm closer to your son's age than your husband's, so my opinion may be biased.

[ShadowGate420]

yo your husbands a dick. i had the same problem with my stepfather. he used to put his hands on me until one day when i was 17 i beat the crab out of him and put him in the hospital for a few weeks. needless to say he was embarassed to come back so i won. if he initiates the violence ur son will finish it.

[invision]

damn you guys act like her husband is a bad person the none of you know the situation and if my son got flip with me it would be more than a neck grab boy some kids need a beating plain and simple if he thinks he can do what he wants and breaks the rules then a ass whopping is needed.

last thing we need in this world is another 17yr old cocky bastard to deal with cause if she or her husband dont do something someone on the street will which in turn could be alot more than him getting beat.

if it was me he would have no car he didnt like get the hell out and the step dad needs to be the authority as well doesnt matter if hes not the father or not he is involved in his life he is the man of the house and if he needs to deliver a beating to this boy than so be it.

[ShadowGate420]

Yo fuck you invision. You have no idea how much physical abuse from a step father fucks your head up. I beat my stepfather within an inch of his life when i got bigger than him cuz he hit me when i was 9 years old. Abuse never solves anything it just makes the problem worse (ie: need for revenge)