Thug,

If your soil drains properly, then the amount of water shouldn't matter. It's not the water that kills the plant, it's the lack of oxygen. Even if you have a seedling in a large pot (which i have right now), you can water plenty. Keep the roots moist.

You drink water and it doesn't kill you, but if you drink enough water where it keeps you from breathing, you will die. The water doesn't kill, you just need good draining soil and let it dry up between waterings. When you water a plant, the water should run out of the bottom. Peace