dude...i think your making the right steps into the right direction...you are still young...when i was 16 or 17 i didnt know what the hell i was going to do...i felt desperate to have sex...but would lock up if the girl actually wanted to...but then i did have sex...and my confidence grew...but i didnt think i was the bomb at it or anything..or atleast til the girl would say i was the best...and many have said that...even now...at age 23 i went to a bar like 4 times a week and couldnt get none...then i met my girl friend...i completely opened up to her...and told her shit that i would never have thought would come out of my mouth...like i told her that i was going to fuck her brains out better then any guy ever had before...and sure as shit....she still tells me that she has like a morning after orgasim when she thinks about us having sex the night before...so am i the man? i am to my woman and thats all that matters to me....dont be afraid to be shy....you will open up and free your body when you find someone you like....dont mean its your soul mate...but maybe just someone that makes you sooooo dam hot you cant keep your d.ck soft....youll see what im talking about...PEACE