So confused :confused:

[lilweedprincess88]

Well yesterday my now ex was over. We were chillin and he got kicked outta his house recantly and was staying with a "friend". Neway we were looking for places for him to live and he had talked about us living together and mentioned it again when we were walkin lookin for him he ended up going to his "friends" house again. I had found a bunch of numbers and called this persons place to give them to him. Now me and him were datin for like 2 years and he was my first and i his. So back to the confuseion. while he was here he said he loved me and blah like usual i wanna make love to u and kisses and hugs and holding hands and eachother. So he goes back there like i said and i called. "She" answered the phone and i asked for him she was like whos this so i told her tylers gf and i told her y i needed him. She said she would relay the message. 2 min later she calls me back and was all i have sumthing to tell u. I been sleepin with ur bf for 2 months now..Btw hes 19 shes 28 with a kid....So i was like ah okay u know the usual upset and i told her how he was at my house today and wanted sex from me and was kissin me and crap and blah u know...i asked her y she sleepin with a guy so young she was like hes hawt thats y...and that if she known she would have never but he told her he wasnt with me that we broke up...now i asked him b4 and he never told me he kept sayin no and junk and unfortunately i belived him...I ended up going to her apartment to pick up my bike he told her that was a guy friends and she would not talk to me to solve this so find out who he wanted to be with. I should up there and he completly ignored the fact that i was his gf still bc noone said its over and pretended not to know me really...i then asked him y he did it and his replie was shit happens when ur on a break....This so called break was like a month ago he asked for it but came running back to me oh i love u i need u i miss u the break is off, then this...appearntly she thought i knew they were sleeping together and that he told her she loved me. I am soo confused and i dunno if i should belive her bc the last month he only hung with me ....like he might have slept with her during the 3 days but i dunno if he did ne more then that bc he always told me it was only me and he wasn't cheatin on me and crap...i need some advise incase he decides to try to get me back or sumthin....i love him but this really hurts to find that hes been cheatin let alone not from his mouth. But i don't wanna get hurt nemore... I gave him everything he could possibly need. He talked about having kids and marryin me and crap...Please help

lilweedprincess88 Reviewed by lilweedprincess88 on 08-09-2006. So confused :confused: :confused: Well yesterday my now ex was over. We were chillin and he got kicked outta his house recantly and was staying with a "friend". Neway we were looking for places for him to live and he had talked about us living together and mentioned it again when we were walkin lookin for him he ended up going to his "friends" house again. I had found a bunch of numbers and called this persons place to give them to him. Now me and him were datin for like 2 years and he was my first and i his. So back Rating: 5

[lilweedprincess88]

Well what u know he started talkin to me and was i love u i like u more,.....grrr.sumome help me i am soo lost.

[BobBong]

Lose this guy.
It'll hurt but in the end you won't regret it.
There are many men out there that will treat a woman properly.
You know he is cheating, confront him and breakup with him.

He's using you.

[lilweedprincess88]

it was already broken up last night when the girl called me and told me and i picked my bike up....
hes still tellin me he wants to be with me and only me that he did it bc he wanted to get over me then it was hard to stop...hes sayin he loves me...this guy is pathetic i am tellin u.

[birdgirl73]

BobBong's right. Lose that guy. It sounds a heck of a lot like he's playing you for what he can get out of you--a place to stay if he needs a backup plan for someplace to live and occasional sex when he's in the mood and not with his other girlfriend(s). "I still love you and want you" is the oldest line in the book when someone wants to keep a girl on the hook but not really have a relationship with her.

You're still fairly new to relationships if he was your first, so trust me on this. Love doesn't have to hurt or be confusing. Muster up enough self-confidence to resist this guy's periodic advances and hang in there till someone who'll treat your right comes along. Love him or not, this guy's too much of a playa and a user to ever be anything but pain for you.

[lilweedprincess88]

i know i told him i didn't wanna hear his bullshit he made a choice to be with her and her kid so he can have a child and be a daddy now. He was all like no no and crap. Btw hes a member of this board...but yea he was i messed up and i love u only u he even said hed go looking for me today while i am going out for lunch and keep asking me who i was going with like he owned me or sumthin. But he isn't gettin the hint i don't wanna be with a cheater...once a cheater always a cheater...right?

thanks guys for the post and help...this is soo hard for me...i had other relationships hes just the first guys i slept with, incase that wasn't too clear.

[cannabis campbell]

Hes fucking with your head

you'll get over him in time, but to do it you need to leave him

its for the best theres no other way. otherwise he'll keep hurtin u

yeah once a cheater always a cheater, its not like he just did it once and regreted it is it?

You need to forget about him.

[birdgirl73]

Yep, once a cheater, always a cheater. And that 28-year-old girl he's hanging with now doesn't have sense enough to know that if he'd cheat on you with her, he'll cheat on her with someone else.

You deserve better. Good luck!

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Oh boy. I'd seriously avoid him at all costs. The less contact the easier it will be on you. Tell him NO to all advances because right now you're probably extremely vulnerable and no offence, but weak. Don't put yourself through hell. I know you probably want to hear "He'll come back, he loves you" but love SHOULDN'T hurt and love doesn't cheat. I hate to say it but that's the truth. You can do so much better then some skeeze ball who thinks he's a hotshot. He'll probably get genital herpes or something.

[SuperTorch]

The guys a loser if he's not being truthfull to both of you or if he has one face for when your alone with him and another face when your around other people. If two people like having sex together but don't consider themselve to be together thats ok as long as they are truthful about it. But acting like we're in love when your alone and then "your that girl I use to know when he gets around other girls or friends" is the give away that HE can't face his own truth. If you want USE HIM FOR SEX but don't ell him thats what your doing as he'll realize your on to his style and he'll adjust with some other fake but seemedly deeper bullshit, about how shes got money and thats why he sleeps with her but he really loves you bla bla fuc*ing bla bla bla. Don't let him drag you down, but don't put negitive energy his way as it bounces back to you. Just kindly have sex with him at your likeing/conveniance if thats what you want to do. The give away here is how he acts infront of other people about you, not how he acts when your alone.