Quote Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou
hi,

Well, today I had an extreme case of "fist-mouth." I hit a middle aged man in the face and watched his nose blow up like a blood bomb.

The short story. My 18yr old cousin is down visiting and today I asked her (she drives) if she could stop at the hardware store so I could pick up some things. This guy, who is parked in the parking lot, has a trailer, and is parked at the front of the lot. 2 car length, even 3 car length space he's taking up, and blocking EVERYONE out so they can't get in. She honks her horn, we wait about 15min, so finally I convince her to just sneak around him as she has a Neon, a small car. She does, and as we're driving by, she rolls down her window, in a calm manner, and before she says anything, buddy says, "now that wasn't so fuckin hard, now was it!?"

Okay, at this point, I'm mad. For one, she didn't even say anything to him, second, she's a female who has never done anyone wrong. Show some damn respect.

So I pipe up as my cousin is clearly upset at this jerk, and I say, "you were blocking traffic man, we just wanted to get through." Jerk says, "well I've been waiting here for 4 fucking hours, so up yours asshole."

Now, my hands were shaking soooooo bad and I was so pissed off, I got out of the car, walking over to him, and he opens his mouth again, "are you going to do something fuckwad." Then SMASH! I cracked him so hard in the nose that it brought him to his knees. I walked away, spit at him, not on him, and said, "thanks for the fight pal" and smiled.

So...did I lose my cool at all. I figured this dude had it coming, and someone would have not been so nice to him. Tell me what you think, and if I am an ass, let me know.
you lost your cool
you werent nice to him
you committed a battery on another person because you didnt like they way they drove,parked, or spoke.
you spit on another/at another, which is resorting back to early primate behaviors.
you cant go throught life beating people up because you dont like what they say. You can, but one day you will hit another and they might fall, hit their head, die, and you go to prison.
The biggest problems i ever had in my life were due to MY way of thinking.
We justify our prehistroic behaviors by using our belief system to rationalize what harm we do to another.
You arent an ass. IMO, you could take a little more time to learn how to deal with your anger.
I will telll you this brother...
if i hit every person who said something that offended me, or instigated my male ego and activated my y chromosome, i'd be fighting instead of responding to this message.
It sounds like your cousin was going to say something, and buddy beat her to the proverbial, punch. The next time(hopefully there wont be one), perhaps you, your cousin, even though you may be right, keep your window rolled up and consider the source.
Traffic can be hell. people can be very rude.
The next time another person calls you a fuckwad? smile, walk away.
I have found that when one walks away from juvenile behavior, and leaves the idiots standing on the corner yealling and screaming and calling everyone names, that most people, including yourself, will be able to determine who the moron is , without going to battle.
Now, if you really needed to defend yourself, i suggest you do. BUT......
if you end up in court, and your testimony is "i THOUGHT they were going to hit me, so i hit them first, or, they called me a name, so i hit them, you will pay the cost. It doesnt seem fair, but thats the law.

You might of also listen to him when he told you that he has been waiting for 4 hours.
You and cousin thought 15 minutes was long.
I'm not saying that he had any right to speak to you and cousin the way he did, but thats on him. He sounds like a complete idiot.
Do you know whats worse than a complete idiot in a parking lot?
TWO complete idiots in a parking lot.:thumbsup:

I am sorry to hear that you were in a fight. I am glad that you are ok, and that the other guy is probably going to be ok.

Anytime that you feel so angry that you begin to shake, use that as a early warning system and try to do, or think, of something that helps cool you off.
Count to 30.
Turn around and walk away.
You seem like a pretty nice cat, and your willingness to ask the opinions of others, that pertain to you, is a sign of positive growth.
Assholes dont care what others think, and you do.

peace,
dai*ma