Nochowder,

I have been in those situations so many times that if I acted in a physical manner Id never get out of prison.

I have plenty of schooling in martial arts and I will only strike as a last resort in self defense. Then its no holds barred.

But in this situation I realize I would be a little agitated having this guy swear at my cousin, but I would not let him see it. I would maintain self-control of my emotions.

On the other hand the main reason I dont resort to snap-action violence is that I dont need a felony charge. That can really have long term consequences for your job, travel etc.

I think I would have just ignored the comment like I do so many times when I run across people like you describe.

I tend to avoid the verbal back and fourth war that elevates it. If he makes a remark, I remain silent. Then it throws him because he doesnt know what your thinking.

Many times I found this internal worry from your opponent from your lack of response or NOT knowing what you are going to do can bring about an appology or body languange and tone that conveys it because you actually upset this dynamic. Thats a powerful way to diffuse an opponent because the internal worry is worse for him than your response in letting him know exactly where you stand.

He created it, you dont respond, its his negative energy returned to himself.

Self-control is a powerful tool.

Beating respect into the man will fuel and elevate this dynamic. Then its his turn to "show you" or "get even". Its a vicious cycle.

There is a never ending stream disrespectful people in society and you will run into another in the future you can count on that.

It seems to be a never ending test.

Realize it for what it is.......a test and learn from it.




Have a good one.