Well, maybe so. But I also once heard it explained this way by a very smart and perceptive therapist. When you go in for drama and for crazymakers in relationships, there's always lots of excitement. But there's not always a lot of real intimacy or closeness. All the drama throws a big smokescreen in the way of an actual close relationship. So instead of focusing on emotional intimacy, you're focusing on the various dramatic events. This is easy to understand because being truly close and emotionally intimate is hard. We have to allow ourselves to be very vulnerable in order to do that.

This all made a lot of sense to me when I was a lot younger and still went in for dramatic, crazymaking guys. When I began to be aware of what the drama was getting in the way of, I was able to make the adjustments I needed to to hook up with a stable, tender man who was actually capable of real closeness. I don't know if this'll make sense in your situation, but it did in mine 24 years ago.