You may not have a choice in child support. If you don't have custody of the kids, the judge automatically makes a judgement for child support. My girlfriend went through a divorce, knew her ex didn't have money and drew up papers with her lawyer and his that no child support was required but the judge dismissed that and made him pay support so she said she only required 100 dollars a month but in reality she only takes a dollar a month from him. She never bashed him in front of the kid and lets him see him all the time even though he doesn't pay supprt. She put her kids needs in front of her own. Being a child of divorced parents who fought in front of us and bashed each other, please don't do that, it really hurts the kids, having to choose, having to defend a parent. Whatever you do, put the kids first.........thanks.