I hope you can keep trying to work with that mediator. The whole situation is troubling to me. There's got to be a way to settle on something you can both live with that will allow you to share custody and also at least nonminally support the kids financially without having to move away from them to do so.

Even though I know it's hard for you to contemplate, I think it's emotionally important for the kids to know you willingly contributed to their support. They're going through enough turmoil with divorcing parents as it is. Whatever you can work out, get it put firmly in writing so she can't weasel out of an agreed arrangement.

Divorce is so hard on everyone, especially when kids are involved, and I had no idea a custody battle was so pricey these days. In custody-contested divorces (and most others, too) someone's always the loser financially. At least that's what they taught us in family law. The petitioner has an advantage, and if that person is also the one who makes the most money, well, it's a greater advantage.

This may be a stupid question, but is there any hope that you could make an arrangement to postpone the divorce for a while? Not in order to reconcile as much as to coast for a while in a situation that'll allow you both fair access to the kids and let you continue being the stay-at-home dad? Or are things already too far gone and angry for that?
birdgirl73 Reviewed by birdgirl73 on . I need advice OK this isnt about sex, but im putting this here anyway. I am currently going thru a divorce. My wife has stated that if i give her custody she will waive child support. This is important because of where we live, I am not native to the area and I have no family other than my children in the area. I cannot move into my parents basement, I have no relatives here at all. My wife makes a hefty salary approx 120% more than me. For a while now ive been a stay at home dad, this was done Rating: 5