DUDE...you have a child and you don't want to help support it...thats sad. Besides in the u.s.a. the custodial parent does not say how much you owe. THE COURT DOES! NOW...on another note, When you file for divorce the state gets custody of your child and "AWARDS" custody normally to one of you. AT any given time they can revock custody. If you go in front of a judge and say she gets custody if you don't have to pay...that judge will think you are a total loser as a parent hendering any appearance you have in that court room ever again.