just sign away your parental rights. I reread your post and it is all about "you". "You" living in poverty. "You" having to move back to texas.

"YOU" have to be a good father and role model. Get your spine straight! If she makes more money then ask for alimony. If you are talking to lawyers that are going to cost you 200k....that's absurd. I think "you" need to start now by giving up any extras in your life and save money. Cigs, Dope, Movies, Cd's, and everything else that is not needed to survive. "You" can not wait 3 to 4 years to be a responsible parent.

Do not be weak. You have a choice now that will be a judge of your character for the rest of your life.