Quote Originally Posted by Bong30
MM,

My daughter whom is 6, i have been her dad since she was 1. So she is my step daughter, but we are going through a custody battle with the other family.

went to mediation twice......

last time they were escourted out yelling "well see you in court"

We had to pony up 2 grand for a lawyer.............


You want joint custody and you want to show the judge who makes the money, like you said 120% and she needs to pay YOU alimony......Take that.

MM judges are not stupid they will see through her bull shit...........

1st thing
get a lawyer....... barrow money from parent put on a credit card. Kids are worth it. ALSO SEE IF SHE WILL PAY YOUR LEAGAL EXSPENSES. remember she makes the money. Go for it all and see where the chips fall. She would do it to you...im sure
Ya, that is how she would have handled it.

But that isnt me, altho im willing to go there, id like to see if there can be a middle ground before i go toe to toe with her.

A custody battle will run us 175-200 grand each. thats a pretty solid number comeing from 3 different lawyers.

I have been told that worst case senario, I would get joint custody with her being primary care provider, and that she would have to pay me maintenance for a set number of years. But that whoever has primary care gets child support, and the judge has no choice but to go by the NYS guidelines. Which would take 31% of my adjusted net gross. thats my yearly pay minus half what i pay in taxes.

But in the end, if im told to pay her support, I wont be able to live anywhere near my kids. More than likely ill be forced to move to Penn, just to survive, New Jersey isnt much better as far as expensises go.

Going to war is something I am prepared to do, but I want to give this way a chance first.

What Im thinking of doing is going to the next mediation and call her out on the agreement made to waive support if she has custody, and to me being the primary care provider, means she has custody. If she lies and says she never made that agreement, it will be off to war I think..

If she claims the agreement and then says well im changing my mind then ill ask her under waht circumstances is she will to waive support, and then ill judge whether or not to declare war.

If I have to pay her support it means me liveing in poverty, I can go back to Texas and live in poverty with my family, I dont need or want to do it on Long Island.

So if me paying support is what she wants, then I'll take us all into poverty.