Dont ever tell you i didnt tell you so You should talk to her and tell her to be carefull and smoke some weed with her you will bond soo much better just think about what you were doing when you are 14 and u should relise that shes just being a kid as you were when u were that age.You can be a hipacrite(sp?) all you want about the things she does but she will still do them no matter what you tell her.Its just the way things are so u might as well make the best of the situation.Good luck