Had one of them talks about it with mother/grandfather

[Markay]

Didnt go well at all! It wasnt much a of a talk with my mother, Im getting very sick of her treating me the same now as she did when I was 12 (Im nearly 17, and a mature 17 year old if I do say so myself)

It started by her coming in to my room while I was asleep and telling me that she's not giving me money to go across the country for training because I smoke dope so there's no point in training.

I got picked in the top 35 players in my quarter of the country to play rugby for that province, all while toking! It just shows how safe it is.

But yeah, I told her I quit while I trained and got onto that team, so she thinks now because I tried to tell her how safe it is Im just gonna get kicked off it because Im back smoking.

When I was 15 I smoked all the time and got very aggressive and paranoid, but that was mainly down to what was going on with me at the time with a few things. I did use cannabis as an escape.

But anyway, she didnt listen to a word I said and then got angry enough to tell my grandfather. He's an old man who never drank, smoked or even drink coffee. He's 80 and he's still a beast of a man! But he's religious and started actually listening to me.
Bless him, he doesnt know the difference between cannabis and heroin so he actually listened to me, he's a good man.

But yeah, my mother's gone on a mental one, and she's stormed off saying that I can either stop taking cannabis or 'do a thomas on it'. Thomas is my brother who left because of her bullshit! It wasnt cannabis related, she just doesnt know how to parent problems. She just shouts.

Argh, but my grandfather told me to live my life, Im old enough and man enough to make my own choices, just dont go down the drugs road. My mother's main arguement was that he would go crazy if he found out and we'd be kicked out of this house. But that's not true now, Im relieved he knows now actually.

Markay Reviewed by Markay on 07-26-2006. Had one of them talks about it with mother/grandfather Didnt go well at all! It wasnt much a of a talk with my mother, Im getting very sick of her treating me the same now as she did when I was 12 (Im nearly 17, and a mature 17 year old if I do say so myself) It started by her coming in to my room while I was asleep and telling me that she's not giving me money to go across the country for training because I smoke dope so there's no point in training. I got picked in the top 35 players in my quarter of the country to play rugby for that Rating: 5

[slipknotpsycho]

But anyway, she didnt listen to a word I said and then got angry enough to tell my grandfather.

My mother's main arguement was that he would go crazy if he found out and we'd be kicked out of this house.

.... yea that's real logical... sounds like another closed minded parent who generates their own excuses to me...

[FeastonThisSHITT]

I know the type. I wouldn't bother wasting energy trying to communicate factual information with her. I suggest not acknowledging anything she has to say until she is willing to make conversation a two-way street. Some people have problems with conversational skills and just need to be trained.

My mother was always cool, but my father was exactly how you describe your mom. It used to be arguements and such, basicaly him not listening and trying to overbear my point of view with loudness and aggression. I eventualy told him that conversation must be a two way street or it is a waste of energy even opening our mouths. Eventualy he learned how to have a proper conversation with me, but it took time.

[Delta9 UK]

I had fun at 15 with my mum - as it happens I didn't smoke until 18.

She started on about me saying she thought I was an addict.

FFS I was 15 - you are supposed to be pissed off with the world.

Anyway I asked her what she got up to in the 60's - that particular discussion ended right there... funny that

[Markay]

Well my mam took one toke in a circle in college, and didnt like the taste so she didnt 'take' any more.
And I believe that, she was very sheltered as a teenager.

She put my views down to 'selective reading' written by pot heads. She challenged me to name one person in their mid 20s that smokes cannabis and is successful, so I did.
So she named my uncle who abused cannabis, drank everyday and took other drugs as someone who wasnt successful until he quit. She couldnt see how it wasnt cannabis' fault that he couldnt deal with his problems.

I called her a hypocrite anyway, and that annoyed her. She drinks, not much now, but she does to relax. And she's addicted to caffiene (Sp?)

She mentioned something about psychosis so I TRIED to explain the facts to her but no...blah.

[FeastonThisSHITT]

Show her this.

http://www.saferchoice.org/facts.html

[FeastonThisSHITT]

http://www.ama-assn.org/ama/pub/category/3558.html

[FeastonThisSHITT]

Tell her after she reads that, that if she drinks, she is doing somethig worse than you and is being hypocritical, rendering her arguements invalid.

[FeastonThisSHITT]

selective reading? Or Factual, static information?

[Markay]

Oh, she said that if I quit smoking dope she wouldnt drink. So her arguements at the moment are invalid, but she's willing to validate them.