tired of pleasing myself...

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Sorry i kinda skipped around from what I got it sounds like he has got erection problems you can purchase viagra right off the internet with no prescription even cheaper mexico $0.60 a pill. Slip it to him if you have to.

She said the health risks are a bit too great...

[napolitana869]

tell him he has to suck it up and go to a doctor, for his own good. there could be a bigger health issue that this is just a symptom of.

[u.g.u]

Oh I didn't read the whole thing. That sucks

[SpiritLevel]

Make him start a thread so we can attack him and see if he turn bottyboy.
(ps get a strap on and try and push it up his bum, this will tell u if he turned into funny guy)

As a bisexual, the last paragraph of your post blatantly offended me.

Please remember, we're a group of people just like any other religion, race, or whatever...

When I said attack him, I didn't mean rip him about being homo/bi. But I suppose it's too late for appologys, as I could end up digging a nice deep hole for myself. Like the next question could be 'what did u mean?' but I'll end my 49cents worth now, a you've already proved my opinion here to be insensitive.

[birdgirl73]

It sounds less like erection problems than desire problems, right? All sorts of things can affect desire. Conflicted emotions or deep-seated issues. Hormone levels. Men often have that low-desire problem when their testosterone is too low. Might be worth going to the doctor about. Or to a therapist, too, to talk about the issues causing his disinterest.

Lack of desire in men is a fairly common problem and not one to be embarrassed about. Or at least only if it's not something he'll seek help for, which is just silly when there might be help available. If he doesn't get help, as you don't believe in divorce, you're truly not going to be able to stay with him.

Cheating on him just disrespects him and your marriage, and if you consider the sad situation you're cheating on, I'd hope you'd feel awful about that. If you really have to have sex with someone else, get outta that marriage first. Otherwise, take care of your own needs playing solo for a while and strongly encourage him to get some help, explaining that you can't continue like this. Do the honorable thing and address it directly without cheating.

[Breukelen advocaat]

I know a lady who is still married, still lives with her husband, but, sleeps in a different room. They are, only, staying together for their 16 year-old daughter.

If more parents did that, if the honeymoon was over, until the child (or children) was grown, the society would be much better. Even if they had lovers on the side, with each others' consent, the child is usually better off than if they got divorced.

I think that the young lady has a right to propose arranging something like this with her husband. This way, nobody "cheats", because they agree on it. There are websites for couples that do this - some husbands actually enjoy watching, or hearing about, their wives' sexual escapades with another man, or multiple men.

Do a google search for Cuckold, Cuckold lifestyle, message boards, websites, stories, videos, etc. Youâ??ll be amazed at what people are doing.

[RainyDayWoman]

Sounds like he's hiding something. Why is he embarrassed?
Maybe there's something in his past he's not telling you or won't face himself?
What does he mean he... just can't?
Any man can TRY to please a woman.
(COMMUNICATE)
Do you MAKE LOVE in OTHER ways?
Sounds passive/aggressive to me.
Misogenist? (one who hates women)
Madonna/Whore Syndrome?
Why doesn't he want/like sex?
How can you help someone when you don't know what the problems is?
I think he's scared.... of something....anxiety maybe?...... or he's playing you.
Hope it gets better girl the best IS yet to come........................................

[Ganjasaurusrex]

Ok.

Your sure he's not into men.
Your sexually available.
No interest in porn or other women.

So it does sound like libido.

Start with the basics.

Sexual libido in men is a complicated loop system involving the flight or fight response, the sympathetic/parasympathetic response between the brain, the liver and sex organs. I cant begin to tell you how important the liver is.

Many internal chemicals are involved.

N.O (nitric oxide), dopamine, acetylcholine, DHT, Prostaglandin E-1/E-2, Human growth hormone, DHEA, Seratonin and the liver P-450 enzyme.

Is he taking any of the following that would interfer with the liver or dopamine.

Statin drugs for the heart.
SSRI antidepression drugs.
NSAIDS i.e. tylenol etc.
ADD/ADHD drugs.

How old is he?

Does he work out intensly. Weight lifter?

Smoke weed? how many years?

Has he had a vasectomy?

Does he take a prostate drug called finisteride?

Does he drink any alcohol at all?

Is he taking ANY other drug, be that street drug or pharm drug?

Overall eating habits, junk food?

[Ganjasaurusrex]

Im having second thoughts to have ever responded to this thread in the first place. Wanna know why?

I dont believe you.

I think you are projecting your own lack of interest in your husband and justifying a reason for wanting out of the relationship or his inability to turn you on.

I dont think there is anything at all wrong with your husband sexually like you said and that is why you were being so vague about it.

It very common for a woman to love her man very much yet not want to have sex with him, then project that into him as his problem.

Right or wrong?

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

The part that gets me is that he won't even let you go down on him. What guy says no to a blowjob... at least on a regular basis?

I agree with RainyDayWoman when she asks... what is he hiding? Are you guys intimate in other ways, both physical and emotional? Have you approached him with your frustration?

Either way, I hope it all works out for you...