I Need Some Serious Help...

[invoke]

Please only reply to this thread seriously, I'm really worried about this... I mean I can take a joke, but I just need some help right now.

Alright so last night I was smoking outta my glass pipe, some pretty good shit I might add, but I had put a towel under the door, clogged my airvent with sheets, and then opened the windows and put the fan on blaring right out the window. I made SURE to blow each hit into the fan. I left the fan on about an hour after, just to make sure. Now, this was at like, 2:00 in the morning. I got a very rude awakening this morning. It was my dad... he woke me up & told me my room smelled like pot. This is the second time he's said that after I've been smoking. Now, my dad used to smoke himself, he actually stopped about a year ago. I know he used to, I found his pipes and we talked about it. Now to the good part...

So I'm just playing Socom3 today, minding my own business. I get a phone call from my dad, he basically said good morning, make sure I take the dog out, do the dishes, etc... but then near the end he asked if I was smoking last night. I didn't know what to say, so I just denied it... trying to sound offended. Then, about 25 minutes later I got another call; this time it was my mom. She sounded worried on the phone, but not mad at all. My dad had e-mailed her and told her he has suspisions. I denied it to my mom also. Here's the part where I'm lost...

The gentlemen below me (I live in an apartment) tokes up every now and then. His room is directly below mine, so where does the smoke go? Up to our apartment. I used this as a cover up to my parents, saying it was only him smoking again... but I get the feeling that this time the smell was too strong to be coming from his place. Now, when my dad called he said this, "Corey, were you smoking last night? I'm just curious... I wanted to know, not so I could yell at you or ground you, but just incase something was wrong." Now I was a bit upset yesterday afternoon when I was talking to my dad. I dunno if that means that he wouldn't really care if I was or did in the future or not. He's also said to me about 2-3 months ago, that as long as it didn't effect my grades, he wouldn't really mind if I did. Being an ex-smoker, do you guys feel like my dad would understand all of this? He's usually pretty understanding about things that I do. I'm not worried at all about my mom, she's lived with my dad doing it around me as a child and before that for years, and she's already said she doesn't really see the big deal of it and she doesn't mind it at all.

So... after my enormous (I'm sorry about that, just trying to explain everything in detail.) story, I'm just stuck whether I should let my parents know or not. I know neither or them would send me to drug rehab, or turn me in. I'm just worried I'd have to give up toking till I was 18. (I'm 16 now btw.) Both parents being very, very familiar with weed, I don't know if they'd be more understanding, or if they're trying to lure me into false alarm and into a trap of grounding for the rest of the summer.

Like I said, I'm sorry about the extremely fucking long story.

invoke Reviewed by invoke on 07-24-2006. I Need Some Serious Help... Please only reply to this thread seriously, I'm really worried about this... I mean I can take a joke, but I just need some help right now. Alright so last night I was smoking outta my glass pipe, some pretty good shit I might add, but I had put a towel under the door, clogged my airvent with sheets, and then opened the windows and put the fan on blaring right out the window. I made SURE to blow each hit into the fan. I left the fan on about an hour after, just to make sure. Now, this was at Rating: 5

[zeebo phillips]

Tell them. But be mature about and and explain to them that you're able to function and still deal with everyday life with it. Tell them that if you're ever caught, you'll take responsibility. Also, emphasize that it won't effect your schooling (if it will, then don't bother lying). Oh, and make sure that they know it won't lead to other drugs or alcohol, parents worry about that more than anything.

Then ask them if they wanna smoke up with you.:thumbsup:

[Alive]

IMO just tell them if your grades drop you will stop until they are back up and staying up. Grades first.

[invoke]

lol, I think my dad wouldn't take kindly if I asked him to toke ever...

But yeah, I just don't how to bring it up. I don't know what to say, I don't know what would happen if anything were to go wrong... I don't know anything.

[Gothen]

Don't bring it up until they do. Make sure to wait until it's on THEIR mind, then tell them what's on YOUR mind. They both sound like very cool parents, just afraid that their son is going through something in his life that is forcing him to use drugs to make him feel better.

I don't think they'd make you stop, they both sound pretty cool. Just tell them like Alive and Zeebo said and all, it won't affect your grades, and you won't be doing other drugs as long as they don't make toking out to be the devil, adding more stress to your already stressful life.

I think they'll be cool with it.

[invoke]

Don't bring it up until they do. Make sure to wait until it's on THEIR mind, then tell them what's on YOUR mind. They both sound like very cool parents, just afraid that their son is going through something in his life that is forcing him to use drugs to make him feel better.

I don't think they'd make you stop, they both sound pretty cool. Just tell them like Alive and Zeebo said and all, it won't affect your grades, and you won't be doing other drugs as long as they don't make toking out to be the devil, adding more stress to your already stressful life.

I think they'll be cool with it.

I think you've pretty much hit the nail 100% on the head with what you're thinking. I've decided to tell them, well I'll tell my dad first cause he'd be pissed if I told my mom before I told him. I never really got the best of grades in the first place (I think I have something that makes me not apply myself and not try.), so I maybe weed could make me do better? Thanks for the help guys, if anyone else has any suggestions on a back-up plan incase they flip shit then or anything else let me know.

I knew this would be the place to ask - very bright guys here, thanks again.

Edit: Oh yeah, they've also been thinking I have depression, it runs in the family. I think they're scared I'm using weed as an escape from reality, anything on how to convince them that's it's an enhancement not an escape?

[Alive]

for depression convince them that you feel fine when not high you just do it for a little excitement

[Gothen]

I've always had the same problem. My grades have ALWAYS been average. School has never really challenged me, I felt I already knew almost every thing that those people were trying to teach me, at least when it came to subjects with words. In math, I never applied myself because I never believed in myself.

What you should tell them, I think, is that they KNOW that you've never had the best of grades, but that you will promise to not let any of your grades fall to failing or below average (D range) if they just let you toke when you need to, and not get on your back about it.

If they do flip out when you tell them that you smoke, I think you should tell them that you'll quit doing it in their house, or around them, that you'll never come home high, etc etc. That way, you're not completely lying to them, they'll know you smoke, but you won't let them know how much you really smoke, and they'll think you're doing okay with it.

Just make sure not to smoke all the time. Depression, suicide, and a whole list of other life-fucks run in my family, and over time I've allowed marijuana to turn into my panacea. Meaning, I use it for everything negative in my life. I'm depressed? Smoke. I don't feel good? Smoke. I'm bored? Smoke. I'm hungry? Smoke.

It goes on and on, don't let it happen to you, mi mano!

[invoke]

I hope this all goes well... If I don't post back for awhile... you'll know why.

Thanks to everyone though.:stoned:

Edit, Allright, this is all sounding pretty good now. I have all of the major bases covered. I'm about 85% sure they won't be all that mad, I know they'll be upset at first, but in time I know they'll grow to accept it. Thanks once again, really helped me out here. :thumbsup:

[invoke]

Mission Accomplished!

Err, well half way anyways.

I called my mom and I was talking to her about just normal stuff, going to a movie next week & everything. Then I just thought I had better come straight out and tell her. I couldn't tell her myself, I just felt too guilty for lying to her. (I guess if some of you who are really close to your mom would know... it's not the same as lying to your girlfriend or something.) So, I had a friend call her and tell her. This friend has talked to my mom & met her and they're a lot alike. They share a lot of interests and get along great, so I figured it'd be best if she told her.

And the results were better than I had expected. My mom didn't really act all that much different, just said to call her later when we've both had time to think, and to watch out for my dad because he might want to search my room/me tonight. I got rid of everything that was bad... except for that. I have it hidden inside a speaker of my stereo. I don't think my dad would look there, but does anyone had a better spot? I don't wanna give it to anyone... as I don't really trust them, and I'm not totally sure my dad will search my room.

50% of the weight has been lifted. I wish I could smoke a bowl of relief now.