hiding who u like

[zero2104]

i don't get how come when ppl like someone it always has to be a secret u know? (ino that not everyone does but most ppl do)

like i usually do keep it secret except wit my friends but i dont rlly know y we do this

anyone have any psychological explanations??

zero2104 Reviewed by zero2104 on 07-15-2006. hiding who u like i don't get how come when ppl like someone it always has to be a secret u know? (ino that not everyone does but most ppl do) like i usually do keep it secret except wit my friends but i dont rlly know y we do this anyone have any psychological explanations?? Rating: 5

[SocksThaClown]

i don't get how come when ppl like someone it always has to be a secret u know? (ino that not everyone does but most ppl do)

like i usually do keep it secret except wit my friends but i dont rlly know y we do this

anyone have any psychological explanations??

I don't know why, but you confused me... bad :stoned:

[zero2104]

haha

[Polymirize]

anyone have any psychological explanations??

I could say some stereotypical line about how the socialization process in most places today teaches us to see our openness and compassion as a weakness or a vulnerability rather than as our greatest strength...

Or maybe you're just nuts.

[3rdEyeVision]

your just shy sounds like

[lagstronaut]

i don't get it either...we like a person, we know being with that person will make us happy...so we hide the fact that we like this person.. maybe tell people but only until you're sure they like you back...fear of rejection? maybe. but this quote can help you figure out what you need to do maybe [from thom yorke of Radiohead]

"If you have been rejected many times in your life, then one more rejection isn't going to make much difference. If you're rejected, don't automatically assume it's your fault. The other person may have several reasons for not doing what you're asking her to do: none of it may have anything to do with you. Perhaps the person is busy or not feeling well or genuinely not interested in spending time with you. Rejections are part of everyday life. Don't let them bother you. Keep reaching out to others. Keep reaching out to others. When you begin to recieve positive responses, then you are on the right track. It's all a matter of numbers. Count the positive responses and forget about the rejections."

[Az.]

maybe people don't want the person they like to act differently around them?

Some people change when they find out someone likes them....possibly start showing off and such, if you dont want them to change the way they behave around you then dont tell them anything..

hahaha i might have completly missed the point.

[Pipe Dreams]

I could say some stereotypical line about how the socialization process in most places today teaches us to see our openness and compassion as a weakness or a vulnerability rather than as our greatest strength...

Or maybe you're just nuts.

No man, Ill agree with that man. I think people just take time to get ballsy enough to make a move on each other.

[birdgirl73]

I think it just basically has to do with vulnerability and a resistance to wanting to leave ourselves open to rejection. If we like someone and they know it, then we're more vulnerable to rejection if they don't like us back.

It's hard for folks to put their feelings out in the open and risk not having them reciprocated. So instead they hide those feelings from the person who might be the potential rejector.

[Nightfire24]

bird girl i reckon you got it SPOT ON man (woman) we don't want to leave ourselves open for rejection but sadly as you say it leads to us hiding your feelings