My dad died

[cannabis campbell]

Oh shit i didnt know that, sorry man!

[JayW]

It's really tough doing this. When I heard taps, and saw the silouette of the trumpet player in the distance, I broke down, I squeezed my mother's hand, and said that I loved her. It's never gonna be the same.

Fuck all the people that doubt us. Go fuck yourselves.

[Psycho4Bud]

It's really tough doing this. When I heard taps, and saw the silouette of the trumpet player in the distance, I broke down, I squeezed my mother's hand, and said that I loved her. It's never gonna be the same.

Fuck all the people that doubt us. Go fuck yourselves.

Taps always get to me at funerals too. Nothing but best wishes to you and the family right now!!!

[halo]

Im really sorry to hear about this da haze meister. My best friends dad died of cancer 4 years ago so i know how hard this can be on you. Ill keep you in my prayers dude. I really dont know what i can say except that we are all here for you here at cannabis.com .

[birdgirl73]

Haze and Jay, have y'all had a house fulll of company these last few days or today? I don't know how traditional your mom or your synagogue is, but do people still sit shiva routinely? Just wondering if there've been lots of folks around to distract you.

My family's not Jewish, but there were lots of visitors and food-deliverers after both my grandmother and my uncle died, and I remember that it was sort of helpful because it was distracting and at the same time it was irritating, too. You can only be hugged and comforted by so many great-aunts, distant relatives and total strangers before you start to become nauseated.

[tootsie roll]

It's really tough doing this. When I heard taps, and saw the silouette of the trumpet player in the distance, I broke down, I squeezed my mother's hand, and said that I loved her. It's never gonna be the same.

Fuck all the people that doubt us. Go fuck yourselves.

You are Hazes brother honey?

I send you my condolences on the loss of your father. I really am so sorry.

I haven't read the entire thread but I would never believe that your brother would make something like this up. This isn't something anyone would do.

Losing a parent at such a young age is the hardest thing ever. It's a club nobody really wants to belong to. I myself, belong to that club and I know the hurt and pain you are feeling right now. I am so sorry Jay.

When people say "stay strong" they mean well, but being strong isn't the best way to be. Your world has turned upside down and the best suggestion I can give for the moment is to be with people you can talk to and be yourself with. Maybe even a counselor, where you can open up and not worry about how they feel because what they feel is empathy for you and they'll try to help you thru certain humps that are going to come up in the near future.....and beyond.

I wore you shoes many years ago and I open the same invitation to you as I did your brother. If you ever want to talk or need help, Just let me know and I'll be there for you.

(((((many hugs))))))
Tootsie

[tootsie roll]

Haze and Jay, have y'all had a house fulll of company these last few days or today? I don't know how traditional your mom or your synagogue is, but do people still sit shiva routinely? Just wondering if there've been lots of folks around to distract you.

My family's not Jewish, but there were lots of visitors and food-deliverers after both my grandmother and my uncle died, and I remember that it was sort of helpful because it was distracting and at the same time it was irritating, too. You can only be hugged and comforted by so many great-aunts, distant relatives and total strangers before you start to become nauseated.

Hi birdgirl!
I'm not them of course but yes, right now the family is sitting shiva. The night before a rabbi stayed with their daddy thru the night and did the Kaddish etc.
Shivas are typically teary with lot's of eating and remembering and the kids and the cousins going off together to get away from the adults.

I feel just horrible for these 2 sweet boys bird. It's a damn shame.

[puffpuffand away]

these are the last photos i have of me and him
http://www.southernexposurephoto.com...&eventid=51496

http://www.southernexposurephoto.com...&eventid=51496
dont laugh at me for looking like a retard... those are our last photos
also kinda proves i was on that road trip to those fucking retards that doubt me

i never douted u were on ur trip...

i just douted some of the things u said...

u made up 4 that...

u dont look like a retard...

u look like a happy young man...

havein a great time with he his dad...

id b scared shitless 2 do what u did...(rafting)

what a great memory...

[tootsie roll]

~some sites~

http://www.selfhealingexpressions.co...rs_death.shtml

http://www.beliefnet.com/story/28/story_2862_1.html

A good book http://www.centerforloss.com/catalog...hichProduct=49

real good online read
http://www.hospicenet.org/html/teenager.html

For mom

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/pos...alk/death.html


http://www.tpronline.org/articles.cf...D=131&pageNo=3

http://www.pages.drexel.edu/~eq23/info684/parent.html

ZZ

[birdgirl73]

It is a shame, isn't it, Tootsie. Thanks for explaining a bit more about shiva. I would have tried to grab the Jewish Book of Why and read more about it, but I can't find my glasses!

My heart goes out to these boys, too. I can't imagine losing my dad now, much less at such tender ages as Haze and Jay.