Breaking the silence rule- a painful dilemma

[stinkyattic]

My boss' wife has cancer.

She's had it twice before and was successfully treated. Now, she's been going through chemo and the medications are horrible.

She has spent her whole life virtually chemical-free- no drinking, no smoking, no perscription meds, always natural foods.

This morning I was asking after her and we were talking about vitamin C treatments and how so often the most effective treatments are the ones that are the simplest, oldest, adn that the big pharmaceuticals companies make no money on.

He mentioned that in the past she had been able to get through chemo using marijuana- and I almost fell on the floor.

I can just imagine how red my face must have been. We talk about gardening all the time. He's a BIG gardener and he used to smoke pretty heavily back in the day. He knows my significant other is quite the pothead; he knows I spend all my free time gardening in one way or another, but I'm certain he hasn't put 2 and 2 together yet.

Anyway I believe strongly that MJ is for sharing, not for selling. If there were ever a reason to show my hand, this would be it. I'm debating bringing some for her, and I know that if I do, my boss is going to know for sure where it came from.

Now, he's retiring soon, and I'm changing jobs when that happens anyway, and I KNOW he would never report me to human resources or whatever.

But it feels odd. We've worked together for a long time and it just feels like, wow, what if he told me something that just completely changed my image of him? Would he feel like I've been dishonest all these years?

I don't know. I'm leaning towards giving him some of the fruits of my garden for his wife, whom I greatly respect in her own right as a natural healthcare practicioner.

Does anyone have any insights on this tough situation?

stinkyattic Reviewed by stinkyattic on 06-28-2006. Breaking the silence rule- a painful dilemma My boss' wife has cancer. She's had it twice before and was successfully treated. Now, she's been going through chemo and the medications are horrible. She has spent her whole life virtually chemical-free- no drinking, no smoking, no perscription meds, always natural foods. This morning I was asking after her and we were talking about vitamin C treatments and how so often the most effective treatments are the ones that are the simplest, oldest, adn that the big pharmaceuticals Rating: 5

[Garden Knowm]

He told you that his wife smokes MJ.. correct?
Maybe bake her some cookies and let him know that their is MJ in the BATCH.

Or maybe tell him that you shared the story with YOUR wife and she baked the cookies.

: )

iloveyou

[FunkyMonkey]

I would not worry about being seen as dishonest. It is a safe thing to assume he understands the climate of persecution that exists regarding marijuana. Im hope he would understand why it is important for many people to be discreet.

The only other thing I have to say is that you already know in your heart what the right thing to do is and take strength from that. Your inner voice spoke and you listened. All that is left is to complete the circle by acting on what you feel in your soul.

The world needs more people like you.


peace.

[Zandor]

Or you could say you know someone who could help and you would be willing to play middle man to protect him if he protects you?

[elcheapo]

Don't risk getting yourself in trouble. Cover your own arse by keeping your mouth shut - refer to Rule #1 of growing cannabis.
If your boss isn't smart enough to put 2 and 2 together then he is dumb enough to get you busted.
If they need mj then I'm sure they will aquire it without you being involved.
Good on you for having your heart in the right place though.

[graph]

Doing the right thing is always the higher road. However, sometimes the higher road can also land you in jail.

Spare the part to save the whole. You can't do anyone much help in jail. Let this one pass for a safer opportunity. If you keep at it, I'm sure many more will come.

Remember, if he just happens to put two and two together, and just happens to talk about you to one of his friends, who just happens to have a brother-in-law who works for the local police department, you might be getting some unwanted visitors.

There's more than one way to sink a ship, if you get my drift.

[Land of Drought]

"The Road to Hell is Paved with good Intentions"
Maybe he mention'd the "past" to test You?.
Do what ypu feel is right Fk Everybody else.

Me personaly. I cant answer until, if ever im in that situation

[stinkyattic]

If your boss isn't smart enough to put 2 and 2 together then he is dumb enough to get you busted..

I said he IS smart enough to figure out where it came from- and the guy holds a phD. I respect him more than anyone else I know.

He's also a Canadian citizen who grumbles occasionally about moving back to the Maritimes since the US government decided that all immigrants are potential terrorists. He has some farmland up there that his friend is managing organically, and I expect him to return to his homeland when he retires anyway. Geez, I would. Nova Scotia and PEI are like my favorite places on Earth.

I know he's sympathetic to the natural way of doing things- live wholesomely, avoid anything synthetic, etc.

Anyway Knowm, the boyfriend is the big baker in the house. I can't bake to save my ass. If it isn't salty, I'm not interested! Maybe I will make them some special pesto instead.

My gut tells me to break the rule on this one.

It's not getting busted I worry about in this case. It's more the shift in our relationship- going from supervisor/employee to sort of co-conspirators. DAMN the government for creating this artificial 'crime'.

Anyway thanks all for your insight.
I'll let you know how it went!

[Zandor]

Another point I hate to bring up but itâ??s true; "No good deed goes unpunished"

[latewood]

Wow, Great story...I feel compassionate, butb you have to be careful...I think out of all the advice; pretending to be middle man might be the best bet...But those Damn 1st 3 rules...be careful, you have to follow your heart. peace.

I hope if I am suffering and not able to grow that someone with a big heart will help me out. good luck