i think the real issue is that I have been made to look like a fool....I did encourage him, and said "wow, youre doing so good...blahblah.." and he kept letting me think that...he did try, but when he gave up he hid it and lied about it...and then i was blamed for not being more understanding....and the truth is, i dont understand, i quit smoking and have never looked back, so i dont have as much sympathy as i should...whatever...i just hate when i get lied to over and over and each time i forgive, and each time i get fucked...and not in a good way...and then im expected to do it again...