Well, She Left Me...

[Gothen]

So, I guess this is another vent thread. Sorry I'm wasting up space, but I need to get it out and its 2:30 am and I'm all alone and I really can't handle it. Been with this girl for 9 months now and last night we get into an argument and I say some things that I don't mean because she was going out with her friends on the anniversary of my uncle's suicide. I told her it'd mean a lot to me if she stayed home, but she left anyway, so I yelled at her and said that I hated her and it pissed me off so fucking much she was leaving me on this night.

So, anyway, she calls me today and we talk for...god...hours..5, nearly six and it turns out last night she meant this guy and today she just broke up with me and said that it's just too stressful on her. How...how its so hard because her parents don't approve of her being with me and do everything in the world to stop her so when we go out they always make her get home by like...9 and on weekdays we'll be lucky if we get till 10:30. She can't even come see me unless her narc cousin comes with her, so she said she couldn't do it. She says she still is so much in love with me, that she always will be that I'll always be with her but that we just need time because its so hard right now. I gave everything to this girl. It'd been so long since I'd opened up to anyone and she broke my heart again. I know it was only 9 months, but I literally spent some of the best nights in my life.

I know there are other girls out there, but it's just so hard for me to accept she's not mine anymore. She said she still wants to be close friends, but I don't know...it's so hard for me to have to stay with her and be there for her, but not to be with her. I was crying for about 2 or 3 hours, I guess because I really didn't need this on top of getting kicked out by my mom, and coming to the realization that I won't be able to go to college for a while because I'll have to work my ass off just to make it in some shitty one bedroom apartment. Man, she picked a classic time to lay this on me.

Last time I got hurt, I said I'd never do it again, that I'd never put myself through it. But, I slowly found myself falling for this girl. Not some superficial love, but something that I thought was concrete and true. Something that was going to last. But, I guess I'm just naive, right? ::breathes deep::

Love is more destructive than any other thing I know. More wars have been waged and lives lost in the name of "love" or the jealousy sometimes felt from unfaithful partners than any other thing, except for maybe God.

Time to pick yourself up, Malik. Time to fill in the gaps and move on. Your heart's only an organ. Your soul is without bounds.

Gothen Reviewed by Gothen on 06-25-2006. Well, She Left Me... So, I guess this is another vent thread. Sorry I'm wasting up space, but I need to get it out and its 2:30 am and I'm all alone and I really can't handle it. Been with this girl for 9 months now and last night we get into an argument and I say some things that I don't mean because she was going out with her friends on the anniversary of my uncle's suicide. I told her it'd mean a lot to me if she stayed home, but she left anyway, so I yelled at her and said that I hated her and it pissed me off Rating: 5

[Reefer Rogue]

I'm sorry to hear that man. Try to stay strong.

[minnesota man]

Yeah. Try to start drinking more or just stop thinking about it. I pined after a lost girl for over a year. What a waste of time. You're life and reality begins in your mind so rearrange it the way you want it to be. Really.

[FindingTim]

Coming from someone who has experienced heartbreak in a similar fashion (10 months instead of 9), I know how devestating it can be. The bottom line is that there isn't a magic potion that can instantly make you feel better (wrong web site to say that) and the only cure is time.

The best thing you can do if you feel that any chance with this girl is lost is to spend quality time with your good friends (if they are really good friends they will find ways to make you feel better).

Another effective way to reduce the time it takes to get over a person is to delete any phone numbers, email addresses, or anything that connects you to them. Yes, that means no looking at her myspace pictures at 4 in the morning because you are too depressed to sleep.

Anyways, I may sound like a jerk but the truth is that there isn't a whole lot to do. Just remember that in almost every relationship each person feels that they have truly found someone special, and a little while after the breakup they almost always realize that they were not meant to be together anyways.

Good luck, and sorry if I made things worse. I was initially trying to help.

One more thing: Make a list of all the things in life that you are grateful for and it may potentially help you realize that you are lucky just to be here.

[exoticnoise]

yeah man, very sorry to hear that. just spend alot of time with your friends, go out right away and start meeting chicks, smoke some herb so it will be alil more fun. and i have had many relationships that a girl has brokein up with me and a few days later call me back and say they were wrong and the found out they made a mistake and they really know they love you. and another thing, i might have some stuff that will help you through some tougher times, so if you think you need it, email me at deadman_mod@yahoo. com or aim jami7713 i know how hard it is when you lose someone so close to you. just trying to help, so get in touch man, and just remember, have fun and you'll be good.

[Mr. TBAGU 420]

Yeah dude, breakups are always tough. When i dated this one girl for around the same time you dated that one chick, when we broke up, it sucked. I really felt depressed and just felt like my life was crumbling down. I had friends to support me through it though, and a family that helped with it. Smoking herb helps the pain and it makes your life a lot less hectic. In the end though, you will see that it was meant to be the way it is now. I realized that after me and my girl friend broke up. You may not agree with me, but i'm sure it will end up that way. Also, don't get down and not try to hook up with any girls for a long time. The way to heal yourself is the way of getting back in the game. Go out with friends, meet some girls, have a good time. There are so many girls (fish) in the sea that you will find that special someone someday. Believe me, it takes time, but when you do, it is all worth it in the end. Hope everything starts lookin up for you man.

[yabatab]

Women are pure evil in that sense, if they dump you
you sit there thinking about all the shit you could have
done different to make her stay when it actually wasn't
meant to be any ways. Just think of it like this if she went
out and found someone else that fast she never really loved
you to begin with. Move on and put her behind you, pondering
on this is only a waste of time.

[minnesota man]

Yeah, plus just be thankful you don't have that disease like the guy in yabatab's avatar. That would really suck. I mean try getting a date lookin like that.

[OtterPop]

yo tiebreaker

[chisme]

Yeah. Try to start drinking more or just stop thinking about it. I pined after a lost girl for over a year. What a waste of time. You're life and reality begins in your mind so rearrange it the way you want it to be. Really.

i wouldnt really say the drink bit was good advice there bro.....but the hearts there.