The pleasure train hits the girls... ??

[muncheemama]

And two.. I'm a chick and all my girlfriends give blow/hand jobs to their guys... So I don't know what your problem is?

yeah....

[Mr. TBAGU 420]

If you truly give a girl a ton of pleasure it's always reciprocated.

I think you need to to be more of a 'man.' Being overtly nice doesn't get you pussy :P

I don't be "overtly nice". I have never been super nice to any girl i date. If i was that nice to a girl then she would probably dump me anyways for being such a pussy. I'm no pussy though, cause i show her where i stand in this world. She understands.

My past girl friends have givin blowjobs to me. It's just my girl friend now that won't at the moment. If you read up the page a bit though you will see that i'm talking to my girl about all this and it should be worked out soon. I'm sure she will have no problem with doing it, since i give her pleasure multiple times a day.

[Ganjasaurusrex]

Why is it that the girls always want more pleasure, but they won't give the same amount of pleasure back to the guy? I have had many girl friends and each one is the same way. I pleasure them WAAYYY before they pleasure me and it seems like they go soft when they try to pleasure the guy. When i pleasure the girl i finger her or kiss on her and feel up on her boobs and everything, and when the girl trys to pleasure me all she does is maybe rub my dick with my shorts on. She doesn't even go underneath my shorts and give me a handjob. Also, most girls won't give blowjobs. Why is this? I just feel like i'm getting screwed over on the whole "pleasure-ville" thing. Girls get more pleasure than guys, and then the girls don't wanna give the pleasure back. Why is this? It really ticks me off at times..

Could be inexperienced or not enough sexual tension.

Low sexual tension means low intesity sex or no sex.

She has to know what it is like to be rejected sexually from time to time.

You cant be the one that intiates sex 80-90 percent of the time.

Initiate meaning shes grabbing your crotch and kissing your neck.
In other words she has to complete the process. Struting around in her panties doesnt count.

Tease her.

To get her to initiate more is where it is important to build sexual tension.

Women have active imaginations and emotions and if you upset these things then they have to balanced or resolved sometimes sexually.

Dont make the sex an issue or let her know that this reciprocation issue bothers you. If you make it an issue it will get worse. If its not an issue with you then its not with her.

Instead of making the lack of reciprocation an issue its better to create sexual tension. Its about thoughts of resistance.



You could compliment her and insult her at the same time.
Tell her she has a pretty feature but then tie that to an alleged turn-off in an indirect way.

You could tell her that there is something she does sexually that turns you off but you dont know what it is yourself.

You could imply statements of an arrogant nature that you know she will resist. But it is percieved arrogance not the real thing. As long as she resists who cares.


You get the idea.


You also want to send the message that:

1. You are confident.
2. You are an emotional and sexual challenge.
3. She has to earn it.






Later

[cannabis campbell]

Why is it that the girls always want more pleasure, but they won't give the same amount of pleasure back to the guy? I have had many girl friends and each one is the same way. I pleasure them WAAYYY before they pleasure me and it seems like they go soft when they try to pleasure the guy. When i pleasure the girl i finger her or kiss on her and feel up on her boobs and everything, and when the girl trys to pleasure me all she does is maybe rub my dick with my shorts on. She doesn't even go underneath my shorts and give me a handjob. Also, most girls won't give blowjobs. Why is this? I just feel like i'm getting screwed over on the whole "pleasure-ville" thing. Girls get more pleasure than guys, and then the girls don't wanna give the pleasure back. Why is this? It really ticks me off at times..

You're just going out with the wrong type or girls

Tell me what type of girl do you go for?

[muncheemama]

the kind that wont give head

[smitty420]

u gotta make the girl work for her pleasure, next time tease her for a lil bit then stop then just kiss her and shell eventually go down on u or do w.e u wantt cuz she wants hers

[napolitana869]

I bet she's just scared. Maybe she's never done it before and is afraid she'll mess up or something.

[Mr. TBAGU 420]

u gotta make the girl work for her pleasure, next time tease her for a lil bit then stop then just kiss her and shell eventually go down on u or do w.e u wantt cuz she wants hers

That's a pretty good idea. I should have done that tonight to her, cause she was wanting pleasure so i gave it to her. I ended up fingering her and got her all wet and she was moaning like there was no tomorrow! I should have stopped then kissed her and been on my way, that way she would have pulled me back and done pleasure to me so i could have pleasured her some more. Oh well i guess, i'll get my pleasure hopefully tomorrow nite when we are together.:thumbsup:

[Mr. TBAGU 420]

I bet she's just scared. Maybe she's never done it before and is afraid she'll mess up or something.

Maybe she is scared, maybe she isn't. Her body language tells me she isn't COMPLETELY scared to do sexual activities. Also, i'm not sure if she has done it before, because i am the first REAL boy friend she has had, cause i actually care for her so much and i love her more than anyone could love her. So, idk.. she probably hasn't had much sexual experience. If she has, she hasn't done it in a while possibly.

[Sabrinaleena]

Ummm... "some" of what what said in this post is true, but maybe you might want to diregard the compliment mixed with insult part. I'm telling you right now as a female, that'll just piss us off, and a pissed off woman is not the kind of woman you want giving you a blow job.

Actually after re-reading that last post, it sounds like you're being given instructions on how to play head games with your woman. If that's how you want to go about a relationship that seems important to you, by all means. But I don't think that a blow job is worth fucking with someones feelings by complimenting/insulting on purpose, or telling them something they do is a turn off but "your not quite sure what it is". Or deliberately making her feel rejected from time to time. Damn, I'd dump a guy in a heartbeat if I felt he was manipulating me like that.

Well, now to the other part. I'm thinking that since she's 18 she doesn't really know how to give a blow job. Most 18 yr olds dont unless they've had way too much exp and it sounds like yours hasn't (which is probably a good thing). And I'm guessing that maybe she's afraid that 1) Your dick is going to stink or taste bad, even if it doesn't and 2) She's afraid she might screw it up, turn you off or possibly even cause you discomfort.

If she's willing to watch some porn with you, get something that shows alot of blow jobs being given in it. It would help her in alot of ways as she could see different techniques, you could even comment on some of them to show her that it's something you're interested in trying with her. But, if she won't watch porn with you, then it's quite possible that she's a bit conservative and you'll have to work a bit more slowly on her.

Anyway, hope that helps


Sabrina

Could be inexperienced or not enough sexual tension.

Low sexual tension means low intesity sex or no sex.

She has to know what it is like to be rejected sexually from time to time.

You cant be the one that intiates sex 80-90 percent of the time.

Initiate meaning shes grabbing your crotch and kissing your neck.
In other words she has to complete the process. Struting around in her panties doesnt count.

Tease her.

To get her to initiate more is where it is important to build sexual tension.

Women have active imaginations and emotions and if you upset these things then they have to balanced or resolved sometimes sexually.

Dont make the sex an issue or let her know that this reciprocation issue bothers you. If you make it an issue it will get worse. If its not an issue with you then its not with her.

Instead of making the lack of reciprocation an issue its better to create sexual tension. Its about thoughts of resistance.



You could compliment her and insult her at the same time.
Tell her she has a pretty feature but then tie that to an alleged turn-off in an indirect way.

You could tell her that there is something she does sexually that turns you off but you dont know what it is yourself.

You could imply statements of an arrogant nature that you know she will resist. But it is percieved arrogance not the real thing. As long as she resists who cares.


You get the idea.


You also want to send the message that:

1. You are confident.
2. You are an emotional and sexual challenge.
3. She has to earn it.






Later