the way i see, there are two types of people.
some people can be totally happy and complete and whole, at one with god or whatever, all by themselves.

others need to have a spouse to feel complete, or whole, or happy or useful, or able to know god.

i'm a man, and i need a woman's love to feel self-actualized.
being single is like hell for me.
it's not because i'm co-dependent or needy, it's just the type of soul i have.