I went through a situation where I was friends with a girl for about 4 years. We kept in touch and she'd come to visit and at times I'd go and visit her (She was in AL and I was in NJ). So one visit, we go to the beach and we're watching the fireworks. I don't remember what all we were talking about but we ended up in each others arms and we kissed...real kissing. Afterwards, we didn't say anything and just watched the fireworks. The next day, I asked her what happened and she said she didn't know. I asked her if she had feelings for me and she said maybe. So I said, "Look, we go back like brother and sister. If something happens between us and it doesn't work out, then what?" and she jokingly replied that we would have recieved the appropriate punishment for incest (we're not really brother and sister).

So we went out for a 2 years officially, it didn't work out and we broke it off. It was a nasty one. She e-mailed one day to tell me she had to have surgery for something and I called her. When I called her, I answered the phone saying, "Hey sis, how are you doing" and she just broke down and started crying. Our friendship remains in tact to this day. She was a guest at my wedding and got us a beuatiful gift.

The moral of the story is get off your ass and talk about how you too feel about one another.