"the occasional hand cuffing to the bed and blindfold"

The liter side of BDSM. BDSM isn't just about bondage, paddles and whips. It deals more with a lifestyle of Master/sub/slave relationships. If your in a marriage where the husband or wife dictates all the daily rules or possibly the wife is submisive about everything except for money management...that is a form of BDSM. Body control, mind control, enviroment control.....read the book I mentioned in an earlier post...you'll be suprised.

The S&M crowd is more geared towards what you were talking about...but hell, if ya never tried steak....how would you know if you liked it or not?

Have a good one!:thumbsup: