A question for the women on here

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Ahhh the master gives his advice

EDIT: changed "wishes" to "advice"...I think I need to slow down on the weed

[kizazz83]

This may take a while for me to verbally explain , but I'm going to try my best. Tonight, I went to the bars (as usual) and i kept seeing this cute girl that kept connecting with me (visually) so I walked up to her end of the bar and ordered a drink. I casually turned to her and said "Hi, I'm ******* (my name)." I jokingly apologized to her for not having any kind of original pick-up line, and told her I saw her from across the bar and just wanted to introduce myself. The night went well and I got her number, but afterwards I was wondering if this pseudo "I-don't-have-a-line" pickup-line was just a bit too cheesey. It was unintentional and my conversation with her was unrehearsed, but I was wondering if men use this "non-line-line" more frequently then i'm aware of, because when i talk to women i try my hardest not to be cliche. Do you think that a line like this is commonly used by men?

i think i heard that line on a movie once... what was it? oh yes who gives a fuck! you got her number so you have a 76% chance of getting laid. kudos.

[GhostFace2K]

get condoms now
call that girl
report back to me

Mistakes

1. You dont buy drinks for women in bars.
2. You never apologize for being confident.
3. You never use any type of "line" or even mention that word to a woman.
4. You stayed too long.
5. Ask her name first then wait for her to ask yours.

Things you did right.

1. She signaled her interest in you first with body language. You approached.
Guys that approach women without body language first fail every time.
Women do the choosing. You do the challenging.

Dont worry about "lines" just connect with her.

2. You got the phone number. At that point you should have politely ended or winded down the conversation and bailed, then wait at least 5 days to call and ask her out for a date for a weekday only. No weekends for 3 weeks into dating.

Never, ever talk on a womans answering machine until you have been dating for at least a solid month or so.

You will send the message to her of your availability, that you are not making her feel obligated, that you are a challenge and you are confident.
You need to do this from the start.

Ganja... disagree with the first half, agree with the second half :thumbsup:

Everyone else (i.e. friend owl) it turns out one of my girl friends (and i stress the long pause between girl and friends) knows her, and she's supposed to put in a good word :-D

[GhostFace2K]

Commonly used by men no, You ever try meeting some one from on line? I find it much better than at a bar, cause when me and my guy finally did meet, I felt like I knew him well, cause we chatted for like 5 months before we met

As for that, I don't like the idea of meeting somebody from on line... I don't know, to me the whole idea of meeting somebody online is over-the-top and (for lack of a better word) corny. I would feel so lame telling my friends that I met somebody online. Plus, I feel like it's like setting yourself up for an awkward first meeting. I couldn't imagine how weird it would be to finally meet somebody whome i've been talking on-line to for the last 6 months. However, with this said, I'm also open-minded and will try anything first before I knock it.

[likemclever]

Gostface to answer your question. Yes, the non-pick up line is a common pick up line. Iâ??ve heard it several times. But the good news is for the most part the guys who have used it on me were good guys and only used it because they didnâ??t know what else to say. You do get points for approaching her and not waiting for her to approach you so you get to say what ever the hell you like.

You did greatâ?¦the moment you start playing it like itâ??s some kind of game is the moment she looses interestâ?¦or at least I would.

Believe it or not there are still women who like it when you buy them a drink or open a door. And they usually return the sentiment and then some.

You got the numberâ?¦ she wouldnâ??t have given it if she didnâ??t like you. If she gave you a bad number (which I donâ??t think she did) than that would speak volumes about her character and you wouldnâ??t want the dirty bitch anyway.

You did fine :thumbsup:

[Reefer Rogue]

How cliché...

[shoi]

fuck i just relized i dunno wat id say if i were in that situation... i mean like aproching a girl at a bar :/

jesus thats not good

[Big Calhoun]

I've alway used a 'non-line' line. Hell, that's how I bagged my wife..."Hey, I'm Chris, you sit near my section don't you?...". I've never been a 'playa' and can't come up with something savvy, but not corny.

[birdgirl73]

It's the non-playas who make the most headway. I'm convinced of it. Most of us ladies can spot a playa a mile away. Of course, there are women who like them and want to be played. But I don't think they're in the majority.

[keeko]

a lot the time is not what you say, its how you say it.... .and Ganjas advice is some great advice....ive seen it used a lot in real life, good luck