Quote Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

ok, lets say you think bullying is wrong, and you're really really against it, because you grew up all around it, you grew up through it, you were bullied and you swore you never wanted to become a bully, and you'd rather kill yourself then be a bully, then you realize one day, you've become a bully, and it's already been going on for a looooong time, it's not something that's just going to go away, it's not something you can instantly change and poof everything is ok, the damage is already done, but remember you swore you'd kill yourself before you became that person, and you meant it. what do you do, and what do you call that? i'd call that hating myself because that's all i can think of, like that's the only phrase that describes it i guess does this help
I get what you mean...I have been there...My dad was big yeller and I vowed never to do that to my kids...I hated it and him soo much as a kid...I said I would never treat my kids like that or talk to someone I loved disrespectfully...then I had kids....It sucks...So much personality is passed down genetically..It takes a huge amount of self control to not be bully when you are programmed to be that and/or have never seen an example of how not to be one...it sucks, you just have to learn to control it...good luck