How did that whole telling your mom you're not a virgin thing go over?

I wouldn't bother with research, people will continue to believe what they will. However, if your husband is in COURT APPOINTED AA AND IS STILL DRINKING, maybe he's the one who should be considering the psychological aspects of other, legal drugs.

I drink, not too often. I don't like it, I don't like the way I feel when I'm drunk. I smoke, because I like how I feel when I'm on it. Personally, I think cannabis is much less destructive then alcohol.

So what was I getting at with that less paragraph? That it's all about personal preference. Choose what you like best, and if your husband doesn't agree, well, you can complain about it to us I guess.