i know you guys must all get bored of newbies asking advice on first grows

Not really, most of us kind of like it. Whether we admit it or not, studies have shown that it makes us feel good to help people. Besides, that's one of the main things that this forum is all about.

i just need something that will grow well but can take the abuse of a newbies mistakes. any advice ?

I have abused the shit out of AK-47 and it always bounces back. It also happens to be one of the most potent strains ever.