I do myself, and the next one confirmed it. It's like fixing a PC or a car, You can't walk someone through it, you need to see it, feel it, touch it, show it to someone, second lowryder looks male, the first one, I can't tell, but it does look frauline. Just sit on em' and wait, pick off the balls, if they were calyxes, they would have pistils by now.