Hi Texans and Californian.

Speaking as someone with an older sister, there is no one ideal relationship between a brother and sister. We fought like cats and dogs and I spent some of my life really hating her. Recently I called to wish her kid (my nephew) a happy birthday and I ended up spending a long time chatting with my sis. It was great. It's like all the troubles were under the bridge. I bet she wants the same thing you want.