Quote Originally Posted by birdgirl73
That definitely makes sense, Munchee. I think kids do indeed want to see themselves mirrored in their parents. I see my son going through another phase of that right now with my husband/his father. They're both so smart--and by this here I mean booksmart/school smart--and I see how my son is trying to be easier on himself when he makes mistakes than his father is on himself (and on others, too). And it's a struggle for him. He's had that self-critical, very high-achieving tendency modeled for him all his life, and now it's a part of his personality whether he likes it or not. When he was away at college this year and last, however, he saw that other kids aren't all so ruthlessly hard on themselves. And I see him trying to change that. It's interesting to watch.
my oldest son and I butt heads, like, hourly....unfortunately I think its because he takes after me...all highstrung and bossy, my second one is really easy going, alot like my hubby...I get along with him easier, but hubby says he gets along with the older one easier than the middle...I definitely dont want to see my kids deal with some of my personality flaws (that's right people, Im NOT perfect...)