Adopted?

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

Anyone here adopted? I am, from the time I was an infant. I ask because I have a theory that adoptees tend to be more susceptible to depression, etc...

Your thoughts are appreciated!

MaryJaneintheCloset Reviewed by MaryJaneintheCloset on 06-05-2006. Adopted? Anyone here adopted? I am, from the time I was an infant. I ask because I have a theory that adoptees tend to be more susceptible to depression, etc... Your thoughts are appreciated! Rating: 5

[friendowl]

i was abandoned by my parents
and adopted by my neighborhood

every now and then i get flashes of anger and hatred

if your adopted and have found people that actually love you
its better than not being adopted and having to live with people
that dont really want you.if you start thinking on why your birthmom
gave you up im sure itll lead to negative thought.
just be glad you found some people in this fucked up worls that you can turn to when things get rough
some of us dont got that and we got to post on cannibis.com

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

I agree... fortunately I have a wonderful relationship with both my parents (adoptive) and my birthmother and family, so it's great. I'm in a curious mood today.

[DonnieDarko]

Anyone here adopted?I ask because I have a theory that adoptees tend to be more susceptible to depression, etc...

Your thoughts are appreciated!

I gotta believe that an infant can sense the separation from his/her birth mother, and that could lead to all kinds of insecurity and possibly depression later in life. It's just my feeling ...

[birdgirl73]

Hey, MJITC! Haven't talked with you in a while. Too LONG a while.

That's awesome that you were adopted! What a neat thing that your birth mom wanted to give you the advantages of being raised by a couple who were in the right place to raise a child.

I think there's some pretty well documented evidence that some adopted folks can have depression or other issues related to the "abandonment" or being-given-away factor in adoption, but I truly think it depends on the openness with which both the adoptive and birth parents deal with things. I have a much-loved cousin who's adopted, and she dealt with some of that, but it seemed to be healed when she re-connected with her birth mother and fully understood how heavily motivated by love that decision was.

I think giving babies up for adoption is an amazingly loving and courageous thing to do.

[bedake]

my parents adopted 7 kids and have 10 in total

[Adam01]

I was also adopted at birth and I've never had any sort of feelings of resentment or anger towards my biological parents. I knew that my birthmom had to give me up because she loved me but couldn't raise me. My adoptive parents have always told me this from as early as I can remember, so I had a pretty well adjusted perspective on the whole thing. I met my biological family about a year ago, and I find that I am just as close to them as I am with the family that raised me. It's as if those 18 years of separation never existed.

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

Aww Birdgirl... thank you for your insight. I agree, putting a child up for adoption is an extremely courageous act, especially for someone as young (16) ad my birthmom was. It's because of this that I've never harbored any ill feelings toward her, only an intense curiosity of wanting to know who she was all those years.

Adam- you sound a lot like me... do you find you've met a lot of adoptees throughout your life? Do you feel you're more like your adopted family or your birth family? You seem to have a really healthy attitude toward the whole thing.

[Big Calhoun]

I'm not but a friend of my wifes is. I have this theory that adoptees get deperessed because they feel there is something missing. My wifes friend just recently found her birth mother and has been engaging in a 'rediscovery' of herself. Her everyday demeanor as seem to improved. Even though I'm not adopted, I was seperated from my father for a good part of my life. As I got older, I wondered what he was like and what habits I picked up from him. It was the source of anger, confusion, and bouts of depression. When my father and I finally reconnected, all the pieces of the puzzle felt in place. All of a sudden, I had a complete basis for who I am. It was wierd...but you'd never guess my father and I were apart for so long by looking at us...we walk, talk, clear our throats, and make wise cracks the same way. It's great!

[whitekat]

would i be considered an adopted kid..........my parents werent married when i was born....so on my birth certifacate, i went under my moms maiden name...and when i had to start school, for me to have my dads last name, he adopted me......i didnt find this out till both my parents died and i was going through paper work....funny for awhile it pissed me off.......and still to this day if someone calls me a bastard, its fighting words