You moderators did a good thing there. The framers of the first amendment would have been proud. I certainly am.

Thank you, Geounagual, for your posts. I agree with Zandor's nod to the sadness making the joy greater, the good balancing the bad. I may be facing a slightly similar situation with a beloved sister before too long. Somehow it was nice to see a fellow caring spirit talking about the process with openness. In some ways, perhaps it's OK for some things to be a buzzkill. At least it's OK to pause in reverence.