mental cheating???

[willystylle]

I feel sorry for the ppl that have to hide everything. I'm practically addicted to porn, so my collection is HUGE, and proudly displayed in my DVD stand.
Even weed and alchohol lies around everywhere with me. Its like you go into every room in the house and theres a pipe or bong waiting to be lit up. If you go to the toilet there's a bong sitting on the cisterne(sp?) so you can toke up while you take a shit...

It's the only way to live, man.

[muncheemama]

Why does he feel he needs to "hide" a porn stash from you? Hiding something from someone is done for specific reasons. Reasons that involve the person they're hiding it from. If anything i think you shouldn't make him feel bad about having porn, embrace it and use it together. It'll be fun, very sexually arousing, and it wont be that black cloud that hangs over the relationship.

he hid it because he knew prior to buying it that i would be hurt by it. that is/was the problem, i guess i felt entitled to my hubby respecting my wishes while i was away growing his child...he ditched the evidence before i came home, but he forgot to put the dvd player back in the living room(goddamn my PI like mind)..he was lonely and bored, and i think he had some resentment about me being gone...the dark clouds are fading, we are happy still, i just have trouble not throwing it back in his face when we fight...but i promised to stop, so i will. oh, and i will say that I have not ever ever ever ever ever thought of someone else while with my hubby, thats just weird.
and mental fantasies for him are something i cant control, or ever find evidence of, ignorance is bliss...