Turtle,

Glad to hear you are in love.

In my years of observing others and myself in relationships with women, I've come to the following conclusion:

Women will destroy the person you are and mold you into the person they think you should be, regardless of whether it's in your best interest or not.

I've heard guys talk about things like "sacrifice", and "choosing your battles"; it's all a bunch of self-delusional bullshit.

Here's the deal: Women only allow the men victories on things which don't bother the women and have no impact on their "plans" for their men. This sets the stage for men to think that they "get away" with things, or that the men "put their foot down" on something, when the women didn't really care in the first place. This gives men the illusion that they share power with the women in the relationship.

It's all a lie.

Your woman has made you turn your back on a passion of yours because she doesn't like you doing it. That is the true reason why she hen-pecked you into killing your babies. Sure, she used reasons like getting busted by LEO, doesn't like the smell, it raises the electricity bill, etc. But the real reason is that she just plain doesn't like it. Also, it's a way of her getting you to surrender to her on something which she KNOWS you are passionate about. This establishes a precedent for her holding power in the relationship.

Next thing you know, she's going to be redecorating the place, making you eat vegatarian and start dressing a way you wouldn't have ever allowed yourself to before you met her (e.g., khakis and a golf shirt with loafers). Hell, she'll even dictate how your hair should be cut.

Ask any married man about the motorcycle they had to get rid of, or the trips to Vegas they aren't allowed to go on anymore, or the season tickets to baseball they had to give up.

Then, you should ask what the woman had to give up...Oh, yeah, she just has to let the guy fuck her once a week and give a blowjob or let him do anal on anniversaries.

Who has the net gain?

Good luck in love. I hope to be as happy as you someday soon! :thumbsup: