Turtle, you're a wise man.
Go with your heart. But don't get rid of your gear! I expect to see you hanging out with Latewood and his veggies, at least!

All the nay-sayers who are talking about women sucking your soul...
Bad relationships go both ways. Sometimes the behaviors that men feel are so controlling, cold, whatever are just self-defense mechanisms.

If you are a truly happy couple, you have nothing to worry about.

Just don't hold it over her head that you made that big sacrifice. It isn't healthy.

When I first met my boyfriend, I didn't even smoke. It took a long time to just get used to the idea of having MJ around the house, and there were times that I was like, whoa, this is too much for me to come home to every night. I'm not going to lie, it was like a year before I was even comfortable with the amount that he smokes.

Now we live together, very happily, and he builds me cool shit for my growroom and I grow for both of us to enjoy together.

The trick is, neither of us really had any expectations. It just took some time to find that comfort level... It's like 2 people sitting on a kind of small sofa. It's possible for both of them to get comfortable, but takes a little wriggling around and changing positions...

You have a whole future to maybe show your partner that the ability to nurture another living thing, even if it's a plant, is actually one of the best qualities she could ever want in a man.

Best of wishes to you.