well that's the thing. He lost his job some time ago, and was out of work, then he inherited a bunch of money from an aunt of his, so when that ran out, he started to look for solutions. He had planned on killing himself some 6 months before, and took out a big insurance policy for us. The anti-depressents are prescribed, and seem to be working, and he was a severe undiagnosed alcoholic who hasnt had a drink since it happened. And as far as me e-mailing him : I would be more than happy to go over to his house to see him, but my stepmom and his dr. advised to give him time and we do it when he is ready. So for now I'm playing the waiting game.