I have a nasty case of the monday's...

[Its a Plant]

So my monday is already in the shitter.
To make a long story short, my dad tried to commit suicide in early April and I haven't seen him or talked to him ever since. I learned that he had been quite depressed for some time, and that he needed to be away from his kids while he sorts things out. My stepmom, who is the only one who's seen him since, said that he still feels extremely guilty about what he did and so on, so there's no telling how long until I get to even see him. Today I sent him an e-mail, like I usually do once a week, and I guess I upset him and made him feel guilty about what he did and how he can't provide for us anymore. Then my stepmom left me an angry message about how that e-mail made him take a huge step back in progress.. It just made me feel so bad that I did that to him, and this is on top of already not being able to see him. I'm just looking for answers, anything I suppose, b/c emotionally I'm a wreck. Has anyone else had to deal with suicide, and if so, how did you deal with it all?

And this is only monday !
how is everyone else's monday going?

Its a Plant Reviewed by Its a Plant on 05-22-2006. I have a nasty case of the monday's... So my monday is already in the shitter. To make a long story short, my dad tried to commit suicide in early April and I haven't seen him or talked to him ever since. I learned that he had been quite depressed for some time, and that he needed to be away from his kids while he sorts things out. My stepmom, who is the only one who's seen him since, said that he still feels extremely guilty about what he did and so on, so there's no telling how long until I get to even see him. Today I sent Rating: 5

[3rdEyeVision]

my dad killed himself because he thought he wasn't providing for us and stuff, I have no clue how to help you really but I guess just visit him and talk to him as much as you can, try and find out if he's drinking alot or anything.... if he's single it would probably help out a great deal to try and find him a girlfriend er something.... hope everything works out man.

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

My mondays been goin ok. Got an a-level exam on wensday, hav'nt revised atall yet and these exams are important. I woke up today at about 6pm. Got a text from my mum saying "i know you hate me but you could at least wish me a happy birthday"

So yeah, same old same ol'e. Or however that saying goes lol

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

I'm sorry.

[minnesota man]

It's a plant,

Sorry too. Your dad seems really messed up right now. Don't blame yourself. He's responsible for what he does, not you.

I don't know shit.

-MM

[crudemood]

Has he tried getting some professional help? When I was suicidal I tried getting some help and it kind of worked. But mostly, I worked it out myself. Maybe he needs some profesisonal help, it might work, its worth a shot?

[poorprincess]

My mom was always depressed and she didn't do anything to hide it from me. I will never cry in front of my child because I learned from her mistake.
life is hard but once I had a child suicide became an undeniable impossibility. I consider it selfish.

[Its a Plant]

yeah he's going to therapy twice a week and is on tons of anti-depressants, but I guess that he was "2 steps forward, and my e-mail knocked him 15 steps back." Hearing that doesn't exactly make me feel too hot.

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

Im confused... But if he is like this because he can't support his faimly. I guess you've just gotta let him know that dos'nt matter and that he tried his best? I dunno. Im not gonna pry but i have no clue why he's in this state so i don't know what to say. But yeah, both my parents have been and mybe my mum still is, sucidle. But it dos'nt really affect me that bad cuz im not really worried about that and i think things will get better with time. Hopfully that will be the case for your dad, just give him time. If he's seeing profesional help he might get better soon. Because he proberly finds it easier to talk to a complete stranger and this progesional will have good advice. In anycase, i hope your dad gets better. Im sorry you have to go threw this. But yeah, just look at the future and hope for the best :thumbsup:

[Bong30]

my dad killed himself because he thought he wasn't providing for us and stuff, I have no clue how to help you really but I guess just visit him and talk to him as much as you can, try and find out if he's drinking alot or anything.... if he's single it would probably help out a great deal to try and find him a girlfriend er something.... hope everything works out man.

3rd im sorry to hear of your loss.....


its a plant..... do you want to save his life?

no email no phone calls..... you drive over and see him, and tell him you love him. Look him in the eye and tell him....(never do that Dad, it will hurt me to much, cause i love you, and then hug him) tell him you would rather live in a cardboard box in the street with him, the in a mansion with out him.

It is hard to explain guys... I am 35 with a couple kids and my whole life has changed.

like 3rd i was the kid who skated all day and night and was just a hell raiser.

Now if you, even come close to hurting my kids i freak out. The instinct to protect my kids is unbelievable

So the ability to provide for your family is important to Fathers and if you fell that you cant provide, you have failed everybody, and the worst is you failed your kids.

you need to go over and look him in the eye and forgive him.


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