Quote Originally Posted by Big Calhoun
Do you have a female friend that could try to befriend this person? In the complex I moved from in NJ, there was this couple. The lady was really nice, I think she did secretarial work. She was always pleasent and tending to her garden. The guy she was with was an ass. Very rude and abusive, never anything good to say. Well, the nieghbor above them always used to call the cops b/c of the fighting and could hear her getting beat at times. The couple that lived next to me got real concerned b/c it was the talk of the complex. Well, my nieghbors girlfriend ended up befriending the woman. At first, the woman wasn't allowed to go anywhere. But when the boyfriend saw it was just going to be a 'womans night out' type of deal, he relented. Well, in the abscense of the boyfriend, the woman would spill the beans. I mean some nasty, horrible stuff. After a month or so, my nieghbor and his wife helped the woman to move out while the guy was at work. You want to talk about some fireworks!?!? The guy was cuffed with 3 officers trying to get him into the car and he was still fighting and yelling, "Who did it, I know one of you took her, who did it...". Asshole.

So if you have a female that your good friends with, that may be a good way to establish contact and start to get this woman some help. Sometimes people just need a leg up or just to know that someone cares.
I have a few female friends, and I know that one of them has already stepped up to the plate and offered. She's a big girl with big friends, and she gets up in that guys face like he only weighed 90lbs, lol! The thing is she is just as helpless as the rest of us, because the girl getting whipped doesn't seem 'want' the help. (I don't get it?) She talks like she has nowhere to go, but in the end she's been offered places to stay, and told about the safe houses.

I'll tell you exactly whats going to happen. 1) the guys going to kill her, or 2) Someone is going to kill him. The cops are doing nothing, because there's really not much they can do. I think we'll just have to let it all play itself out./shrug

It's really frustrating because she's not doing what needs to be done to protect herself. #1 thing is to get away from this guy, but she refuses all help offered.

It would be easier for me to do something if I thought she would appreciate it, but as is, she brings it on herself by means of not even wanting to leave the prick!

Unbelievable!

How can you help someone who doesn't want it?