Quote Originally Posted by psychopixi
But, uh, I probably wouldn't lie just to work in the whole "me too" thing, cause she'll probably ask you about whatever you just said "me too" about, and find out it's a lie. So don't lie, or make sure you know what you're lying about.

Agreed.

Being fake, lying etc. does not build emotional intimacy. If she cant trust you she is not likely to share more with you. Lying is always a dead give away when it comes to body language. Honesty, integrity, reliability and loyalty are important issues when communicating with women. These four things form the word trust.

When your not honest and she asks you questions it will be a dead give away if your not honest, as you will: subconsciously look away, look down, swallow or figet. You cant hide this. And she subconciously picks up on it.
Women are also more skilled at reading facial expressions than men.


You also say to avoid asking personal questions. How do you build emotional intimacy without it? This is exactly what she is looking for. This is one of the main things she wants from you is emotional support and sharing. She doesnt want you just for "babies". She wants a connection.

She wants to know herself through you. You are her reflection. A mirror. If she cant trust you with the general stuff then she wont open up more about herself with you.

You want to ask questions about her life, of course just not too personal in the beggining. You have a lot to offer a woman by being a skilled reflective listener and a man who can read through her non direct levels of communication to understand what she really means.

When it comes to touching. This is my rule. She touches first. You touch her less than she touches you. If you exceed that, you might exceed her comfort level. So its best to touch her after she signals you thats its ok and not to exceed that.

Its best to tease her by touching after she touches you then pull back. This way she comes to you and you avoid unessessary rejection. If you follow this rule she is not likely to push you away. If she leads with the most touching then how can you be rejected? This is one way to build sexual tension. You undermine it when you want to go right to it and not let it build over a period of time.

This is another aspect of being a challenge as there are many, emotionally and physically. So remember those words, COMFORT LEVEL as it is important to women.

You lose sexual value in an instant if you come off as a guy that paws at women. You appear sloppy and inexperienced.

You can be an honest man, an emotionally challenging man yet one who provides good feelings and mystery.

Confidence is mainly self esteem. You have to accept yourself and like yourself as she can only get what you got from you.

Confidence is shown through body languange mostly. Its the pace of your walk, how you hold your shoulders, keeping the chin up, eyes up, not looking down, hygeine and how you engage others in conversation. Its reflected of course like you say in the way you dress.

What about other things like tests? Can you react to tests properly.
Like when she says, "So when was your last relationship"? Do you look away,
figet, look down etc before answering? There are alot of these tests that catch you off gaurd.

Can you handle her hugging another guy in front of you to test your response after you have dated her for some time? Do you get uptight, clobber the guy, or act as though your not phased by it?

Even the nicest women will test you to find the strengths of your character.