Women basically are attracted to the following. With each you can attach a matter of degree because it will vary in importance from woman to woman.
A few of these things you can expect to be tested on from a woman.

A man who is confident.

A man who is emotionally challenging.

A man who can read through her levels of communication.

A man who is nonchalant.

A man who has self-control.

A man who is mysterious yet provides good feelings or knows how to make her feel sexy, worthy, acknowledged, listened to, respected, important, etc.

A man that knows what he wants.

A man that is honest.

A man that can take control. Not controlling.

A man that enjoys life.

A man that is exciting and adventurous.

A man that is creative.

A man that is thoughtful. (just not to make her feel obligated like gifts etc. in return for something).

A man that can provide security and safety.

A man that is funny.

A man that is supportive emotionally.

A man that is charismatic.

A man that has a plan.

A man that secretly knows how to build sexual tension and have patience.



As far as what turns women off it would be:


You do everything she asks you to do. Including her tests.

You unknowingly send the message that you are desperate.

You play her game.

Your timing is off.

you talk too much about yourself.

your not honest.

you act fake.

you act predictable.

You respond to her emotional games. (fake tears).

She makes most of the decisions.

Your scared to offend her.

You dont respect yourself.

Your too open with your feelings too soon.

Her perception of your sexual value is low. She has to know that you are desirable to other women. But you dont have to cross that line in order to send that message.

Bad hygeine.





The main thing that guys overlook is their sexual value or her perception of you. This is why "just be yourself" is best to avoid. Dont hide who you are, just dont do anti-seductive things that turn her off which may be part of "being yourself". Guys sometimes send messages of desperation without even knowing it. So take a good look at just what does "just be yourself" mean.

Just buying into the notion that women give men sex puts you at a disadvantage from the start.

Some things you do build soft sexual tension. Somethings build intense tension which makes her more aggressive. A man controls alot of how he can make her feel. She wants to be guided to these states of mind to feel different things. I can assure you that the wife that "never wants it" can be hanging off the cieling while a guy squirts liquid chocolate on her having orgasm after orgasm because he knows how to push the right buttons or move her to these states of mind. It had nothing to do with her sex drive.

You must make yourself an object of attaining that had to be worked for.

If you dont you will be labeled "nice". This means you are not an emotional challenge. So dont confuse that with the other definition of nice.


Remeber a woman does the choosing. She will let you know non verbally when she is interested in you. So pay attention to body language.

Women dont want to feel "hit on", "picked up" or anything like that. They want a connection and dont want to feel devalued in the process.


Seduction is all about eliminating anti-seduction actions and doing and saying the right things and sending messages of perception.

Too many men think linear when thinking about sex and ignore seduction all together.

If you:

Transform yourself internally. (accept yourself and like yourself). She can only get what you got from you. Make sense. Embrace your uniqueness.

Eliminate anti-seduction actions. (Unknowingly sending messages of desperation by what you do).

Increase your sexual value. (your availability/ desire perception).

Build sexual tension. (This is an intentional uneasiness created in the mind that requires balancing to resolve). Sexual tension has to build. If it doesnt it is almost as if she is not having sex at all. So you have to know how to push these buttons. There are things that build soft tension like backrubs, romantic dinners, compliments etc. and there are things that you do which make her feel like she wants to rape you. You have a lot of control to guide her through these states of mind. Too many men think it is her sex drive. They dont even know they have sex maniac waiting to come out.

THEN Let her initiate sex most of the time. (Men approach women for sex 80-90% of the time. This is the wrong approach). You give away your power of sexual value when you do this and will experience rejection often as a result. A confident man doesnt beg for sex or complain that he isnt getting sex. You dont want this type of sex anyway because it as if she is not having sex at all. Just doing either one of these things will get you more of the same.
Make her work for it and complete the process.

This is the best way to approach women seductively and sexually.

These are the basics without going into a lot of detail.



Later.