i have never lied to my kids about drugs or the fact that i use them ...my oldest son is 14 and i have smoked in front of him since he was born ..he knows that i use for medical reasons... and that it is not to be discussed outside the home... because it is no one elses buisness how our family deals with medical issue's.... he knows that i also use for recreational purposes. and that is also no body's buisness....he has been told he can smoke at home with me or his mom when he turns 16 .IF he maintains a 3.5 GPA otherwise he has to wait till he is 18...since he has been raised around pot smokers all his life it is no big deal to him...as it should not be..it's just a plant... so i really doubt he will start till he is older if ever...he also understands that any use of drugs other than cannibis will result in a severe beating and will never be tolerated in our family using cannibis while raising a family is no differant than using alcohol /caffeine/chocolate /tobaco or any other mild mood altering substance..until people realize that cannibis is just as harmless as caffiene or chocolate and safer than alcohol and nicotine we will always have people who will be brain washed into believing that a parent who uses mild intoxicants are not as good as parents who have become monks just because they now have a couple of rugrats running around the house