Potsmoking Parenting

[rowjimy]

I dont believe that at all. In fact, parents that smoke weed are probably a lot more open minded and better communicators than parents (like mine) who are totally anti drugs therefore encouraging their children to keep secrets from them
Personally, I cant really be bothered with people when Im stoned so I can imagine being pissed off with crying babies around, just think I'd cope better sober

I like your views though, its good to be open with your children

moderation is the key ....i would never be tending to a newborn infant when stoned ....but a couple tokes to take the edge off in the AM for me and some others is a good thing ....for others it can be a problem... i very rarley get totally baked out of my mind any more ...except at say concerts or family get togethers ..after 30 + yrs of smoking.. getting super stoned every day has lost its lustre...A slight buzz is plenty for me now adays...as far as screaming babys go the next ones i hear will be my grandkids and that better not be for a few more yrs yet ..as my 3 kids are all in there early teens.but the weed did help give me patience when i had to deal with them screaming when they were still lil guys...one of my ex's felt the same way it made it ezer for her my other ex couldnt deal with the kids while buzzed ..i guess it comes down to whats best for the individual but hiding any thing from people you love and are close to can never produce any good results

[rowjimy]

That sounds good. How about your spouse's family? Do they know? Their reaction?

I wonder about a spouse's family's reaction. I believe that reputation is important, and I don't think I've been with anyone whose family wasn't at least moderately critical. I'd be worried that keeping the knowledge of the fact that I was keeping a smoking habit on the low would be hard to confine to my household. And, I believe that keeping said knowledge private is important, because later on, other parents could find out, and you could find yourself in a potentially very awkward position, or you'd find that you, or your kids, had been harshly judged by people whose noses should've been kept in their own affairs.

yes they know my kids moms parents smoked when they were young and still do ocassionally as does my mom and my step dad did till he passed

[rowjimy]

im 29
i got 3 lil ones
my 9 year old boy got on honor roll
my 8 year old girl can do it all
my 2 year old is very very bright

i smoke all day every day in front of em
i blow the bong rip outside so they dont get smoked out
when they see me blaze they dont even care
there is no shock factor cuz im open about it
they know its wrong they wont smoke
when i come home grouchy my kids tell me
to go smoke so i can be cool
the funny thing is when i drink they get real mad
they hate alcohol but like weed
good kids

yea i dont drink much any more but when i go to visit my oldest and his mom me and her will usually go out for drinks the night i get there so the next morn my boy will avoid me till i have had a soda and a joint to kill my hangover...he knows when i smoke im no differant than when i dont ..but if im hungover i cab be grouchy till it goes away

[stangle12]

I grew up with smoking parents. But god damn they were good at hiding that shit. it didnt affect me once so ever. i didnt even find out until i was like 13 and snooping in their room.
once i got to the age where i realized what things were, they put it completely out of sight. Actually i remember my dad rlling a joint when i was like...3. but thats it.
I know for a fact that they both quit, but it wasnt for parenting reasons. they just wanted to feel healthier.

so becuase of this, i will probably follow in the same footsteps. Keeping personal stashes here and there. Quitely smoking before bed as they did and passing out to wonderful dreams after a hard days work.

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

Keeping personal stashes here and there. Quitely smoking before bed as they did and passing out to wonderful dreams after a hard days work.

Sooooo true.

[Fengzi]

I've got a two year old little girl and I still smoke. I've been smoking for close to 25 years though and, like rowjimmy so excellently put it, "getting super stoned every day has lost its lustre". I had actually stopped smoking for about 5 years a while back but started again a few years ago when it was suggested I try it for medical purposes, to help relieve pain from back spasms that flare up every few months.

Other than for medical purposes, I mostly I just get high at night, after my daughter has gone to bed. Sometimes I'll have a drink instead. Sometimes both Just something to help me relax at the end of a long day. I don't have the type of job where I could get high at work and even on weekends I'm usually so busy doing yardwork or running errands I just don't have time to be baked all day. Every now and then I'll take a day off from work to just stay at home by myself and I'll usually wait until these times to get really, really high.

I'm almost never high around my daughter and never get high in front of her. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it and am not trying to hide anything from her. It's just that when I'm spending time with her she is the focus of my attention. And, I can honestly say I enjoy sitting on the floor with her, playing with playdough or having a tea party, more than I enjoy getting high. The only exception is that I will occaisionally get high just before I read her bedtime stories. I can get into the story a bit more and get a bit goofy which she seems to enjoy.

When you become a parent you have to make a lot of sacrifices. I don't think that smoking and being a parent are two things which have to conflict with each other, however. When you have a child you have to alter your previous lifestyle but not give it up completely. Being a parent and getting high every now and then is no worse than being a parent and going to excercise. If you're an excercise freak, however, and do it so much that you ignore your children, that is just as bad as a parent who gets high all the time and ignores their kids.

[dog420]

I have 3 kids, they still not old enough to know what i smoke. I try to keep my smoking weed till they have gone to bed, or at the weekends i'll go in the garden.

Yes they have seen it, yes they have asked questions and yes they say it makes my eyes go funny. I tell them there are lots of diff. type of ciggs

Peace and good luck us stoner mum's and dad's!

[napolitana869]

thank you to all of you who have kids and smoke or who have had parents that smoked when you were growing up. I smoke every day part for fun and part for medical use and what im going to do once i have kids have been a big question in my mind. It's nice to know that it can be done in a way that wont harm my kids growing up.

[25yrsmoker]

i have never lied to my kids about drugs or the fact that i use them ...my oldest son is 14 and i have smoked in front of him since he was born ..he knows that i use for medical reasons... and that it is not to be discussed outside the home... because it is no one elses buisness how our family deals with medical issue's.... he knows that i also use for recreational purposes. and that is also no body's buisness....he has been told he can smoke at home with me or his mom when he turns 16 .IF he maintains a 3.5 GPA otherwise he has to wait till he is 18...since he has been raised around pot smokers all his life it is no big deal to him...as it should not be..it's just a plant... so i really doubt he will start till he is older if ever...he also understands that any use of drugs other than cannibis will result in a severe beating and will never be tolerated in our family using cannibis while raising a family is no differant than using alcohol /caffeine/chocolate /tobaco or any other mild mood altering substance..until people realize that cannibis is just as harmless as caffiene or chocolate and safer than alcohol and nicotine we will always have people who will be brain washed into believing that a parent who uses mild intoxicants are not as good as parents who have become monks just because they now have a couple of rugrats running around the house

you are so right its always good to be honest to your kids about what you do, and people need to understand that, ive been smoking for 27 yrs i started at 12 ill be 39 in a few days and i have a 4 yr old daughter people need to understand it should be do as i say not as i do when they are kids until theyre ready to become an adult and make thier own decisions then the choice will be thiers peace to you and yours

[Sauce]

Yes, but that brings up another interesting question: what then? Do you tell your kids the truth about your usage? Hide it from them? Stop? Use marijuana as an incentive for good grades?

Yeah my dad convinced me when i was young that he grew and used medical marijuana for his back and my grandfathers stroke. Mom came out the closet when i started high school and i've never really had problems myself with it. I think its best to be honest when they are mature enough to understand its use. Just keep it private if you wish, haha incentive for good grades that lady is facing some charges aint she