hey man i dug your parenting post also im a 38 yr old widowed father of a 4 yr old daughter my wife died of cancer 2 yrs ago so its pretty tough raising our child without her but welcome to the boards if youre ever in the bluffton hilton head island south carolina area give me a shout we seem to share the same parenting style and live our lives in the same way maybe we could burn a few bowls together be truthfull to them and let them know who the parent is and give them all the love you have to give peace to you and yours if you ever want to chat you can email me at [email protected] hope to hear from you we seem to have some things in common